BaronOfHair
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Then do so. The only real barrier to you doing so is your insistence on making excuses for not making the proverbial plungeI'd like to attend more.
Then do so. The only real barrier to you doing so is your insistence on making excuses for not making the proverbial plungeI'd like to attend more.
For most men, that is true. There are men who would struggle to initiate approaches in an unstructured environment like a coffee shop, indoor retail venue, or a regular bar.You’re better off making conversations and being friendly with the starbucks baristas staff, being a regular laptop dude in the evening and talking to women on your breaks…than trying to fish at a speed dating event lol.
Umm, even though I've mentioned on the forum before that I'm prone to panic attacks when making a move on a woman I already know, I wasn't even the slightest bit nervous at any point of the speed dating event.Then do so. The only real barrier to you doing so is your insistence on making excuses for not making the proverbial plunge
Those alternate methods haven't gotten me far.You’re better off making conversations and being friendly with the starbucks baristas staff, being a regular laptop dude in the evening and talking to women on your breaks…than trying to fish at a speed dating event lol.
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You're damn right there are some men who would struggle to initiate approaches in an unstructured environment.For most men, that is true. There are men who would struggle to initiate approaches in an unstructured environment like a coffee shop, indoor retail venue, or a regular bar.
Almost all men are better off going to a regular bar night as compared to a structured singles event or a speed dating event. Women who go to structured singles events or speed dating events tend to be mediocre to subpar looking women who believe they are entitled to a top tier Chad and will reject men on their SMV level.
Those alternate methods haven't gotten me far.
The most it's ever gotten me was some mild flirting with a pink-haired Starbucks employee back when I was 26-ish.
Since, unlike most men, a woman's interest level in me tends to plummet upon getting to know me, perhaps I'm one of the few men where speed dating is better.
There were some recent posts on this thread about how the autism spectrum is (as the name suggests) a spectrum (with various autists falling along the spectrum to various degrees)
I have something to add.
There's a man in my office building who's clearly on the spectrum to a much more severe degree than me. Additionally, he's fat, bald, and old (I'd estimate 48-55)
Yet he has a loving wife.
I, on the other hand, have above average looks (and only a mild case of ASD), yet haven't had free sex in 3 and a half years.
What gives?
You think you are better than him while simultaneously feeling worse than him...There were some recent posts on this thread about how the autism spectrum is (as the name suggests) a spectrum (with various autists falling along the spectrum to various degrees)
I have something to add.
There's a man in my office building who's clearly on the spectrum to a much more severe degree than me. Additionally, he's fat, bald, and old (I'd estimate 48-55)
Yet he has a loving wife.
I, on the other hand, have above average looks (and only a mild case of ASD), yet haven't had free sex in 3 and a half years.
What gives?
Being an autist myself, I try not to use the word "worse" to describe another autist (because I have sympathy for my fellow autist men)You think you are better than him while simultaneously feeling worse than him...
I understand your frustration . But it ALWAYS boils down to THE MIRROR.
If you are so much better looking than him, you should be able to use that "fact" as leverage ti be more confident. But as you see , it does absolutely nothing for you.
Do you know his wife? Are you willing to wife up ab hb4 with excessive weight?
I keep saying that nowadays a man can easily be "ok /good-looking " and still go on a year's long dryspell of he doesn't find a way to break that circle.
Life happens in your own mind.
Without knowing anything about your background, job, social circle, attitude around women, body count, etc., are you sure that you're actually an autist?Being an autist myself, I try not to use the word "worse" to describe another autist (because I have sympathy for my fellow autist men)
I get your point though. The whole package, on the surface, appears to be better for me.
I've been known to brag about my good looks...but it's all a facade. Deep down, I have low self-esteem.
I don't know that man's wife personally. I only see her when she picks him up at the end of the day. Her looks are nothing to write home about (and no, I wouldn't be willing to get with a woman with her looks)
That being said, I shouldn't have to dip as low as he did to find a woman (because I have better looks and a milder case of ASD)
I'm going to fill in some blanks for you. My body count, if we only count free partners, is 9 (As impressive as that sounds, it's somewhat misleading, as 6 of those partners are from 2012 alone. I haven't had free sex at all since April 2021)Without knowing anything about your background, job, social circle, attitude around women, body count, etc., are you sure that you're actually an autist?
The majority of autists that I've known are either on disability benefits, unemployed (or work under special contracts), virgins, got little to zero social or practical skills, and are most often gaming all day. You don't seem anything like this.
I know that "mild autism" or HFA are terms used by many. I personally do not believe in those terms. In fact, being a diet and health enthusiast myself, I even believe autism to be metabolic disorder rather than a neurological one, and that its traits are actually reversable. It's a controversial topic though, so I'd prefer not discussing the topic any further than this.