"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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AlmostThere!

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Should I attempt to have sex with a girl again (whom I had sex with before) after she LJBF'd me?

I did no contact for a month and a half. I broke the no contact thing (just as a test) and invited her to join me to the movies. She responded really quick and texted me like a half hour before we meet to see if I want to come over her place and smoke some weed first.

During our hanging out, I did absolutely no kino. I didn't bring up the friend's speech (and she didn't either). I was confident and laid-back the whole evening. We met around 8pm and departed one another around 1am.

Now, I won't contact her again. If she invites me out (as she done in the past when we were dating), I will test the waters and do some kino. Even may go all the way if she accepts my touching.

Should I? When she LJBF'd, she gave me two BS excuses. I'm too skinny and her family won't accept her seeing a black guy. I'm 5'10'' and 150lbs. Slim, but not skinny. She does have an issue in her past which makes her getting close with a guy a problem, but we had sex more than once.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Oh, I'm not trying to make her my wife. I'm not just focusing on her. I simply want to test out techniques and see how she responds to it. She's a great girl overall, and wouldn't mind keeping our friendship and occasional sex with her.
 

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Dude, a girl giving you LJBF after having sex is...umm...no, you need to write this one off.

That dog ain't gonna hunt.
 

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The only reason why I think that this can be turned around because of her past. I didn't make any AFC mistakes...after sleeping together the last time, I think it freaked her out. I guess this situation is hard to explain over the 'net.

Oh yeah, I know her first excuse was BS because the first time we got together, she was all over my body and admiring it. **** what she said. Her actions speak louder.
 

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AlmostThere! said:
Her actions speak louder.
Yes they do. A girl telling you you're too skinny and her family wouldn't want her to date you (where the hell is your pride?) is taking the ACTION of saying "Leave me the fvck alone." Any attention you show her after that only further solidifies your position as the butt of her jokes. If a woman ever said that to me, I would banish her a$$, only for her to come after me like gangbusters when she sees me with hotter girls.

But that is my story.

Some white women will sleep with a black guy for the novelty of it, this one has tested the goods and make no mistake, SHE AIN'T BUYING WHAT YOU'RE SELLING.

Move on.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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