You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Dude...you are not in any shape or form ready to be in a relationship. You need to take care of yourself and finances FIRST!Zack Morris said:Now she's acting all weird and stuff. I don't ask for money much. Just when I need it for my car, or if my checks bounce (only happens like once every 2 months). Now she rarely wants to hang out anymore. SO I'M NOT MADE OF MONEY.
Okay?
Some women do provide for men...and that is ONLY acceptable whenwayword said:Women say they want equality, but when it comes to providing for men (like men often do for women), most women will have a seizure.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
A man that is "truly" struggling is called a LOSER, married or not..Some women do provide for men...and that is ONLY acceptable when
1- A man is truly struggling (or trying to better himself for the best of the family)
AND
2- She is his wife.
I disagree...because there are exceptions to the rule.MacDiddy said:A man that is "truly" struggling is called a LOSER, married or not..
I believe she will leave such a man 9 out of 10 times. Its statistically proven!!!
Agreed, while 99% of women will leave. Solution - don't be so needy or down on your luck and you get to keep the women happy and content and provided for, coz thats what their inner instincts desires...A QUALITY woman would stay by that man 10 out of 10 times.
EXACTLY.MacDiddy said:Agreed, while 99% of women will leave. Solution - don't be so needy or down on your luck and you get to keep the women happy and content and provided for, coz thats what their inner instincts desires...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Off-topic, it'll be here by 2010 at the lastest. Statistically speaking, there is a huge, crippling depression roughly every 80 years in this country, and current events don't seem poised to buck that trend.Latinoman said:or another Great Depression like that of the 1930s can come by...
Your problems aren't her problems. Don't get her involved in your financial problems. Thats why she rarely wants to hang out with you.Zack Morris said:Now she's acting all weird and stuff. I don't ask for money much. Just when I need it for my car, or if my checks bounce (only happens like once every 2 months). Now she rarely wants to hang out anymore.