i asked her out, she declined but rescheduled, so who contacts who?

[Blackhole105]

Asked this girl out for a drink tonight. She didnt respond right away, and when she did she said she was busy, but "how about this weekend?" I said sure.

My question is who contacts who when the weekend comes? Keep in mind that i havent seen this girl since i met her at a bar a couple weeks ago, so we barely know each other. Anyway, i know man is supposed to lead and what not, but id feel pretty dumb if i asked her "so are we still on for the weekend?" when friday rolls around. She's the one who rescheduled, so she make the effort. That said, i dont want miss out on a good opportunity because of false pride and passiveness. What do you guys think?

 

[TheException]

Asked this girl out for a drink tonight.

First off....this^ is no good. From now on ask "What day are you free to get drinks this week?". That way she can throw out a couple days and you pick one. Success rate is much higher and also lets you screen for true interest level.

she said she was busy, but "how about this weekend?" I said sure.

Again...your "sure" response is no good. I like using one word responses when getting flakes on but not when a girl makes a positive and tries to counteroffer. You could have said "K...Saturday at xyz at 8pm?" That way you would have set up a definite date with a place and a time.

My question is who contacts who when the weekend comes?

Now you see what problem arises when you just say "sure" and not make a specific date. You dont contact her. She probably wont contact you but thats fine, you will win points for not being needy and spewing that line "sooooooooooooo we still hanging out this weekend like you promised???" If she does contact you great....if not, wait until midweek(like Tuesday) and text her again to make plans......this time use the line i gave you above to find a day that fits her schedule.

 

[j0504s]

I would text her exact day and time and place u want to hang out...if she says ok just show up dont text anymore. most females will never take the lead especially on a first date.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Spot on, OP. Memorise this for next time. ^^^
Edit: Agree with jo5s but was talking about The Exception's advice with initial post.