"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I asked a girl to hang out. She hasn't answered back.

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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u should have made the meetup more confirmed... get a time and place. just tell her what you got going on, then invite her to come. if shes interested then she'll be there if she doesn't show up and flakes on you then you got work to do....she may have very well been alright with a meetup but you just bring up or force this vague idea that you want to hang out with her the next day and leave.
 

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Giacobe.KB said:
On Saturday I asked this girl to hang out with me on Monday, memorable day. Well I texted her and it went something like this.

Me: dude, do u have my green journal?
Her: no, I only have mines. did you lose yours?
Me: yes, but its a good excuse to talk to you ;)
Her: Lol! you looser. I just woke up.
Me: U just woke up at 6, and now you just woke up again?
Her: i didn't woke up right now at 11 i think =p
Me: so guess what you are doing on monday after school?
Her: there's no school on monday dork
Me: oh thas right, then guess what u r doin at 2 on that day
her: I don't know...
Me: you are hanging out with me!
her: haha really?
Me: well unless you ABSOLUTELY have something better to do
her: i don't know yet lol
me: well i got to go somewhere now, but tell me asap, talk to you later
her: okay bye bye
Well to me,it seems that you did ok,however,you're NOT agressive enough.
You need to lead,and EXPECT HER to follow you. For example,instead of asking her what she was doing on Memorial Day,you should have told her what YOU WERE DOING,and TOLD her that you want to see her that day. Now she probably would have had a look on her face,or a sound in her voice of,"Uhh..who does he think he is?". And you know what? THAT'S GOOD!

If she thinks that of you,that means she thinks that you think highly of yourself. THIS IS GOOD. If you think highly of yourself,she'll wonder what the deal is with you,and why you think highly of yourself.
Then,she'll think highly of you too.

Read my latest thread. It's on the board right now,or you can just click my name and find it. Look at the way I interacted this this girl.

That's the kind of attitude you need to have with women.

The only bad part is that you've ALREADY started off this the girl NOT behaing the way I suggest. And if you just switch up all of the sudden,you'll come off as incongruent. What you'll need to do is slowly blend in some of these behaviors with the way you're already behaving.
This way she won't get suspicious.

Good luck man.
 

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thanks bro. its just that i come off ****y a lot, i mention it in some of my previous posts. so i really tried to act myself this time around. ill read your posts

also, on the whole time and place thing. i didnt want to confirm a place because i wanted it to be a surprise (plus i didnt really think of it at the time) i guess its just o well...
 
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