I appeared too rush and desperate. How to salvage it?

[joeyjunior]

Hi all, this is my first post here. I am so clueless now.

This is the story.

I bought a house recently and I got attracted to a mortgage agent, Mandy. We had our first meeting to talk about the mortgage plan and my girlfriend, Lisa was with me.

Few days later, we had a one to one meeting and the session went well. We managed to talk about more personal stuff and I found out she was single. I even joke that I will introduce some guys to her. She was receptive. And I believe that day I scored pretty well.

A week later, my girlfriend and I broke up. Not because of mandy, but more of compatibility aspect. However, I did inform Mandy.

Mandy texted me to check whether I was alright. I replied casually trying to keep it cool.

I tried asking her out for coffee a week later, she rejected and two days later, i texted and called, but she did not reply. We did text each other before this. but now it seems like she is rejecting me.

I texted her two days later to asked her out again, and called but she did not pick up nor reply.

Perhaps I appear to be too desperate?

How do I get her to go out with me now that it has come to this stage?

Thanks.

Sincerely,

JoJr.

 

[seymour butts]

She's not interested. Move on before you enter creep territory.

 

[BadNews]

You're coming off as extremely desperate in my opinion. You JUST broke up with your GF, and you're texting/calling her to go out with you? She is instantly going to think you're looking for a quick peice of @ss...which will probably turn her off.

Beyond that, you're a client of hers. It would be extremely unprofessional of her to see you romantically outside of work...ESPECIALLY if she is a mortgage associate. There are TONS of rules (read: LAW, LEGISLATION) surrounding mortgage associates and conflicts of interest, she could find herself in serious trouble if even the smallest thing was out of line in her relationship with you/your business.

I would suggest you forget about her.

 

[Iceberg]

This is 10 different kinds of stupid.

 

[Atom Smasher]

You have most likely breached the female "code of ethics" (an oxymoron if ever I've heard one).

She is thinking that you are dishonoring your previous relationship by trying to hit her up so soon. She sees you as shallow and undesireable because [in her mind] you have insulted your former girlfriend by rebounding too soon.

I would give this one a 0% chance. Once they make up their mind about his kind of thing, it's written in stone for them. Game over.

 

[The_411]

It was never a go. Too many ethical issues to begin with ....

However, never tell a girl that you broke with your girlfriend because she'll think you did it for her and that always comes off as desparate.

The only way you could have salvaged this one was for dirty pity play angle... where you say no not doing ok and laying guilt on her, Mandy, and convincing her that she should come over comfort you.

That only works if a) you are very skilled at this move b) you have no qualms about acting like a douchebag c) the girl has low self esteem.

 

[joeyjunior]

Thanks guys for all the responds.