I Apologize...

[DatMackinBoi]

Sup my fellow DJ's... Today I called a girl and she didnt answer.. before this she wasnt texting me back... I ****ed up... I chased the *****h and I knew i should of just let her go.. FORGIVE ME...

 

[Beavis]

unaware

 

[base2ball2boy2]

May I ask why you posted this then? It's okay to make a mistake, nobody's perfect.

Are you looking for advice on what to do?

 

[Ease]

hes asking for forgiveness obviously

 

[DJ Miquelo]

Best thing about this situation is, u see the error of your ways and hopefully ull never do it again!

 

[penkitten]

live and learn.
you don't owe this forum an apology.
experience life and learn from it.

you can't exactly wait around on every chick to text you before you call them. that would be wasting your time.
if every guy waited around for women to make the moves, there would be a ton more lonely people out there waiting around.

 

[DatMackinBoi]

The point that im trying to make is that we met at this bowling alley.. and we had a BLAST!! We went walking in the park and were talking about everythingg possible.. even past relationships.. She opened up to me rather quickly.. Then 3 days later she just completely stops talking.. This **** really pissed me off and yes.. I am looking on what I did wrong because I dont see anything I did wrong...


So if anyone has advice on this type of situaiton please post.. Thanks

 

[Igetit!]

The point that im trying to make is that we met at this bowling alley.. and we had a BLAST!! We went walking in the park and were talking about everythingg possible.. even past relationships.. She opened up to me rather quickly.. Then 3 days later she just completely stops talking.. This **** really pissed me off and yes.. I am looking on what I did wrong because I dont see anything I did wrong...

Where you went wrong was talking about "everything possible".

Since you talked about "everything" and she opened up to you quickly,my guess is that she probably talked about negative situations and experiences in her life that she's had. So the date went from you two "having a blast",to a patient/therapist type scenario.

She talked about past relationships...and I assume she spoke of the bad and negative things that she had been through in them.

I ALWAYS SAY to stir up a woman's emotions,to make her feel passion,excitement,intrigue,etc. This way,she'll want to continue being around you to keep feeling these things.

Well,you did THE OPPOSITE.

By allowing her to speak about the negative situations in her dating history,she now has associated these negative feeling and emotions WITH YOU.

I must have said this a billion times,but I'm going to keep on saying it...


WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL.


This is exactly why I said that a guy SHOULD NEVER let a woman lead the conversation because she'll lead it right into the ditch.

And you know what the crazy part is? She didn't even do this ON PURPOSE.

To her,all she knows is she was just walking along talking to you,then for "some reason" all the negative and bad emotions she felt in her past relationships,she FELT THEN...WITH YOU.

So she's avoiding you,but it's not really you,it's the negative feelings she felt while you two were walking in the park that she's trying to avoid.

What usually happens in this type of situation is the girl WILL CONTINUE to avoid you.

Just thinking of you,and not only that,but everytime you call her,text her,or try send her a message through another person,the second she sees that you're somehow connected to it,instantly she'll start to feel those bad feelings.

Sorry dude,you screwed up.

I know of NO WAY this can be corrected.

 

[DatMackinBoi]

you've got a point bro.. i really appreciate it.. I didnt even reallly notice this but now I know better for next time..

While she was talking she began saying this like how she had sex with no condom and now shes scared it might mess up her future and all of that..

She also started talking about all the jerks she has gone out with..


Alla that negative ****.

So you are right so for next time I just have to take control of the conversation and keep it positive short and sweet.. thanks cuz



EDIT: Is there anyway I can keep the conversation positive over a period of time Igetit! ?

 

[Igetit!]

you've got a point bro.. i really appreciate it.. I didnt even reallly notice this but now I know better for next time..

While she was talking she began saying this like how she had sex with no condom and now shes scared it might mess up her future and all of that..

She also started talking about all the jerks she has gone out with..

I'm assuming that all this talk about her having sex without condoms and worrying about messing up her future all took place on the FIRST DATE,right? This shouldn't have happened.

There's no way a subject as serious as having sex without condoms should even have come up on the first date.

First dates should be fun,light-hearted,about enjoying each other's company.

Not discussing serious issues and topics of conversation.

How would you feel if you went out on a date,and the girl started talking about STDs,pregnacy,and the two of you possibility getting engaged or married?

She'd probably run you off.

Once there has been a mutual attraction established FIRST,then later on if you two start to get serious,then you can discuss these things,but not on a first date...EVEN IF SHE BRINGS THEM UP.

EDIT: Is there anyway I can keep the conversation positive over a period of time Igetit! ?

Well of course there will be ups and downs,highs and lows in the conversation,but were just talking mainly about the first date.
I'm not talking about over the length of a relationship,just the first date or two.

Also,the focus of the convo should be on THE TWO OF YOU.

If you talk about anything and everything OTHER THAN THE TWO OF YOU,you'll get what happened here,or fall into the friendzone.

Just some innocent flirting,that's all. Throw in a random positive topic from time to time,then bring it back to the two of you.


Be careful if she decides to bring up a discussion. Make sure it's fun or energetic. If it's negative,then smoothly steer it in a positive direction.

Take a look at this field report of mine. Look at how I approached the girl,how playful I was. I also kept the conversation onto her and myself possibly dating each other.

Peace man.