I am tired of trying to change

[Irs88]

I try to push myself everyday. Try to talk to people. Get out of my comfort zone. Im tired. I am so tired of this. I just feel like staying in my room. Its not that i am scared or don't want to change. I am just tired of pushing myself one step forward everyday. School, gym, trying to change who I am. Im so stressed and feel like I cant keep this up. Im exhausted from trying to change. I really DO want to change. I dont need motivation to not give up.

What do I do? How do you guys handle life when you are just too tired to keep going from all the things going in your life?

My schedule goes like: eat, study, class, eat, study, class, gym, etc. Try to talk to people along the day. I have no time to watch TV or just "hang out". I need some advice on how to ease this feeling and continue on with my busy life.

 

[Igetit!]

You say you're tired of trying to change. Change what? What is it you're trying to change about yourself?

 

[SharinganUser]

Then take a break.

 

[ssj4halo]

agh

 

[Irs88]

You say you're tired of trying to change. Change what? What is it you're trying to change about yourself?

Besides the typical "getting my degree" and "not be called skinny anymore". Get out of my comfort zone. Trying to create a positive environment around me. No negative thoughts. Try to actually converse with the people around me. Don't laugh. Its hard for some people lol.

 

[magickarl]

Take a week off dude. Do the things you absolutely need to do. Besides that, just sit back and relax

 

[Warrior74]

It's just like working out man. You don't work out every single day on the same part...you have to give it time to rest so the muscle can rebuild and change.

Take a short break. Get some rest. Recharge and do some things you really love to do for yourself and then let some of the things you have been learning soak in and grow and then go back out and enjoy yourself. You'll find yourself doing better and better man. Don't give up on yourself. If you give up on you, then you give up on everything...that leads to depression.

You are trying to make your life the best it can be. That's positive! Your stronger than many people just because of that. look on that a source of strength. Remember...rome wasn't built in a day, neither is the life your creating for yourself. It takes constant work...we are all doing the same thing man. Constantly working towards something better. Celebrate every small success, see it as proof that you are becoming what you want to be. Enjoy! and Good luck.

 

[Pathgen]

Find a day and just reserve that day for whatever you want to do. Even if it is sleep all day. Take that day sleep, relax, i would say eat whatever you want but within reason because you dont want to wake up feeling like **** because you had too much junk. Just unwind and the next day get right back up on that horse.

 

[Groovy]

What? This should be FUN if you ask me! It shouldn't be a JOB. Getting out of your comfort zone... Should be FUN!

What are your views on the world? Do you feel like everyone's going to hurt you or something like that? How's your self esteem?

You have to look at it as a place of ABUNDANCE. Some people are damn cool once you get to know them, others WILL of course try to bring ya down, but you can't let THAT stop you.

Working out for your goals should indeed be a nice thing. Simple stuff like making your teeth whiter as I've been doing myself may be boring at first, but it will surprise you to see it's paying out!

Kind of like going to the gym... If you work TOO hard and you don't see much results at first, it's going to discourage you, but keep in mind, it DOES make you feel better in the long run. It keeps getting better and better and better. You may just not notice it first. The beggining is the most important part!!

Reading your post again kinda made me think, you're tierd of chaning yourself... do you really have an idea of what you want to be?!

Or maybe you just need better TIME managment. 8 hours sleep, 8 hours work, 8 hours fun. Again, I'm guessing, are you trying to accomplish TOO MUCH too fast? give it time!

Don't know how to help your more, but warriors reply even inspired ME! hehe, yeah, everyone here is sort of doing the same, SI is the thing if you ask me... We're all striving for be better people, and that's just so awsome amirite? Keep it up, you'll find yourself living an amazing life very soon once you get the hang of it, I'm SURE! There's got to be some small issue, once you start noticing you're turning into a MAN, you'll feel so good ALL of your mindset is going to be changed into a much more steady and confident, unshakable unstopabble positivity!

 

[Dannyrt34]

I think you may have to devote your time some other way towards change. Why not go out of your comfort zone while in class? Talk to the people around you, and if you already do that, continue to move out of your comfort zone and start asking people to hang out after class or go eat with you after class.
Even at the gym, while running on that treadmill. As long as your not breathing so hard you sound like a woman in labor, talk to the person next to you.
And the best thing of all, while your out with your friends having a good time, WORK ON YOUR SELF IMPROVEMENT. Things are easier if your out having a good time, go somewhere where you guys can shoot a game of pool and ask girls to join in. This is how things made it easier for me, everywhere you go, whatever your doing, ask a stranger to join you. Then you can practice all different kinds of conversation, and feeling comfortable around strangers. This way you kill 2 birds with 1 stone.

 

[handle]

I also hit a wall a a couple of weeks ago. Sometimes you need some times for yourself. I realized my life (during the week) was either studying or thinking about how much I need to study. Needed a break. Feel better for it now.

Take some times to relax.