"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I am tired of being nice to these women..PLEASE guide me!

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tomwesten27

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Straight up guys my birthday is coming up and I am going on 27 years old and I still have my boys telling me "NICE GUYS FINISH LAST, STOP BEING SO DAMN NICE TO THESE WOMEN!"

Honestly I consider myself above average with looks, and I am very athletic. I actually have no problems meeting pretty women its just that once I meet them I turn into this beta fag and I am finally at my breaking point...

I am TIRED of treating new women overly nice, and showering them with attention & compliments. They start off with HIGH IL and then they go running because I come off as too needy and desperate...

It's at the point where my own mother who is an Italian from brooklyn cursed me out the other day (with love) telling me:

"Tommy why the fuk are you being so nice to these women?? You don't owe them a dam thing, let them prove they are worth dating YOU, stop acting like the girl chasing a guy...STOP"


PLEASE HELP ME!!! How can I get my butt in gear! More blunt the better! Guidance, advice, tips are greatly appreciated. I am DONE being mr nice guy.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

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Dgwizdal

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The ultimate source for guidance on your problem.
 
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Mike32ct

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It's not really a nice vs not nice sort of thing.

The problem might be this romantic fantasy of yours where you want to be this sweet loving guy.

Instead of thinking of her as this sweet gentle creature to cared about....let's move closer to reality...

She wants to get bhanged HARD by the right guy.

It's not that you're too nice. You're not sexual enough. Unleash your inner horndog. Search for dbot's Follow Your D I ck thread.

Everything a guy is and does is only viewed through ONE lens by young women: does he make my taco tingle?

Without the sexual side, you can be a letdown of sorts to women that initially like your looks.

I'm not saying be a creepy overly aggressive perv, but don't be afraid to escalate.

Good luck man.
 
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jurry

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You probably feel as though there is this huge thing missing in your life and you think the "perfect girl" will fill that void for you. But this is false thinking and no girl wants to fill that role for you, because it isn't possible or healthy. Stop worrying and chasing the girl as if she is your last chance at salvation and you'll do anything to make her happy. Instead she is just an interesting person who may be fun to spend some time with for awhile and get to know, and there are literally millions of other ones who you can have fun with too. Leave the agenda of trying to make something happen or go one way or another with a girl and just be there with her and learn about each other.. Let it flow.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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JustOlder_!

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You are who you are ...but you can certainly respect yourself. I mean, do your own gig and if they want to follow - they will. If not, move on. it sound's like finding a gal is your sole purpose in life. Some nasty snatch is going to put a nose ring in you and hate you for it if your not careful.
 
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