I am so nervous

[NinjaTetra]

There is a chic I like. I try and interact, but freak out last minute. I realise that the worst thing that could happen is her ifnoring me, but even her name petrifies me. I decided today to tell the one girl I am good friends with about how I like, lets call the chic I like Ann. I said, " hey audrey u know ur friend ann? I like her a lot. " That was a bit awkward, but she got excited snd said she wpuld introduce us after school. I was enough of an idiot to not tell her thst we knew each other vaguely. After school, to my complete horror ann and audrey come towards me and audreydoes the most awkward introductions ever. After explaining we knew each other, I hurried off before i made more of a fool o myself. How do I get to know ann wihout looking like some desperate guy? Which of course I am. Im gonna have a heck of a time explaining that if she asks. How come I feel like talking to Ann will end up with me being smashed into little pieces, at least my ego?

 

[NinjaTetra]

Also, would it be a good idea to ask my friend to just tell Ann i like her and find out the reaction? It sounds fine to me- i can be disapointed and cry all winter break!!! Better than a long and painful hoping, possibly.

 

[Mindgamez]

Meet more girls. Do some daytime approaches at the mall. Don't think that getting a girl will change your life forever and for good, because it won't.

After I had sex for the first time, I knew it wasn't a big deal anymore. It's just stimulation. Why do you NEED this to work so much? And you will be getting a lot once you'll be good at this anyway.

If it's not about sex, well you're overthinking way too much about the consequences. Too much ego, get rid of it. Obviously, NOTHING bad happened yet and you're already freaking out. Don't escape the fact that you're attracted to her and stop hiding your intentions.

Go talk to her.

And stop identifying yourself as being the victim! Stop identifying yourself as being the needy guy. Start getting some approaches done. Cold approach is what really changed my life.

 

[Alvafe]

are you serious about the crying the whole winter? first thing AGE,second don't ask anyone to do things for you that can backfire on you, if you want it go after it, what you prefer? you go after her and she say yes or no, or stay feeling uneasy about it for you not knowing what could happen?

 

[NinjaTetra]

Yes I was kidding about crying all winter. I was exxsgerating. I see what you mean abou the cold approach.... I am putting myself as the victim, when I think about it. Im just new to this whole flirting thing, always just sat back and not cared and all the sudden BANG this girl came. So you basically said to just forget the future? Go for now? If it doesnt work theres other fish in the sea? Thats what I got... That I shouldnt care so much. I do care. Thats what makes it difficult. I do care about how she thinks of me. So I need to hide that?

 

[Alvafe]

and that siw hy i'm saying not to care, first you should be young so you lack experience, and only way to get experience is go out and do it, I also didn't care most of time and could score pretty nicely if I wanted because I didn't care about the outcome, the moment I started to care or cared before getting there on the girl was the moment I made mistakes, and when younger I just let chances go.

and gonna ask again your age and her age, that is important, and its not just cold aproach, you possible know her already so just ask her to hang out.

 

[NinjaTetra]

Shes a year younger in the grade below. Ive gained a TON of confidence becaise a friend of mine talked to her and im "cute". I was trying to talk to her yesterday, never saw her until I got on the bus- we have no classes shared,live 10 miles or more apart, and different lunch periods except on halfdays. Talking to her means after school, halfdays, or if im late for my fourth hour i can wait by a certain door for her to pass. Besides that, anything at this point would seem stalkerish. Also, Im caring a bit less. Thwnks guys!

 

[Alvafe]

quick idea then, get close to her and say hey I want to talk with you after classes so wait for me on X place so we can talk(choose a place quiet with not many people) tehn after class wait for 10 min then go to that place and see if she is there, then ask her to hang out, be crative here if you like ask her to help you to buy something or you are curious about anything.

and don't ue your friend anymore, you will look like a wuss and taht is not what you want her to remember from you

 

[NinjaTetra]

Okay, I wasnt planning on using my friend much more anymore. I see what you mean... But I have a new problem. Today I saw her a TON. I had at least a dozen chances to talk, but she was with friends. I cant figure out why I didnt say anything, its not like anything bad wouldve happene from saying merry christmas or asking what she was doing over break. Yet over and over we passed each other and I just pretended like I didnt know her. I dont feel that scared, I know that I am afraid of rejection but that? Well, now ots two weeks before I see her again. Any tips on how to just walk up and not appear rude and interrupt, not look like a creeper, and just seem chill?

 

[Ashx88]

get in relationship with more girls to find out the real pyschology of them and then start getting approach towards them which gives you more experience to get through with a girl .. dont be scared to take up a move. well she should be attracted with you and with your move.do not be rude and do not interrupt on her personal life until you made her as yours

 

[narcissist]

you need to learn how to chill out mayyyyyyne

lifes to short for that pesky anxiety

shes just a girl and believe me there will be MANY in your life, especially because your on SOS at such an early age, u can only go up hill from here.. just chill and enjoy fvcking around, if you dont get the girl SO WHAT?! lol just be chill and have fun with her

dude remember your in the stage of awakening so your going to HAVE to experiemnt with women alot in the next 5 years to become a pro, so just think of her as an experiment and work your magic...

oh if u end up being awkward in front of her and fvck it up just laugh it off because u realize that your making a concerted effort to become a better you and in 5 years you wont even want this b!tch. for me when i talk to girl i keep repeating this in my head over and over and it helps with the anxiety ALOOOT

good luck

 

[gravityeyelids]

Ninja. You are the sh!t. This girl digs you and you have nothing to worry about.

I've been there, i used to shake when talking to a girl i liked. Here's a tip. If you're nervous, tense up a body part that is out of sight. What i mean by this is, put one hand in your pocket and squeeze your fist (out of sight) so you can take this tension out and no one can see it. Your leg/calf also works. I used to get hella nervous just walking down the high school hallway and my neck would tense up, but i started tensing up my calf under my pants so no one could see and i wouldnt be tense in my face or neck or whatever. It sounds weird, but i hope it makes sense.

But really. Next time you talk to her, i want you to focus on the fact that shes just a human. Think about her farting. Seriously. Think about how bad it would smell if she just ripped ass in front of you. Or think about her taking a massive dump. You can't think of her as this divine goddess, because she's not. You've got to take her off this pedestal, and realize she's just human. Don't try to impress her because SHE ALREADY IS INTERESTED IN YOU. Assume this interest. You already have been called cute. You know what cute means amongst girls? It means they think you're fvcking sexy and want to bang you.

When you talk to her, stop focusing on finding the PERFECT thing to say and just make small talk. Ask her how her day is going. Try to tease her if possible, like you'd tease and make fun of your little sister....in a playful manner.