"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I am not so good right now

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When I was in grade 10 I learned a technique that proved to be invaluable to me for my years at high school. I learned how to consciously control my happiness. Since this time I have maybe had like 1 or 2 separate days of depression. I am rarely sad for more than half an hour. However lately I've just crashed. What really sucks about it is that every single part of my life has been getting better. My social skills, my grades literally everything except one situation. I am starting to be able to talk to girls very comfortably as long as they have some social skills. However, the only girl I want and wanted for a while is taken. What makes it worse is she is taken by my best friend. This guy is like a brother to me. So I lost any slim shot I will ever have at getting this girl. Now I want to forget about her. However, since she is going out with my best friend I have to see her a lot. Everytime they touch I actually feel a lurching in my stomach. I want an LTR but I only want one with THIS girl. There's no one else I would consider at this point. The only silver lining is that in 4 months I am moving away from both of them and will prob only see them on weekends. Hopefully that will help me get over her. In a weird way though it is really motivating me to talk to more people to try to find some1 else. Does anyone have any advice on how to be happy again? What helps you get over them?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I know you can't just turn off your emotions, but I think your energy would be better directed elsewhere. And, who knows. Maybe they'll break up some day, and you can make your move. As for the friend thing, I've had plenty of people im my life who I thought were lifelong friends. Very few of them turned out to be.
 
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originaldj said:
When I was in grade 10 I learned a technique that proved to be invaluable to me for my years at high school. I learned how to consciously control my happiness. Since this time I have maybe had like 1 or 2 separate days of depression. I am rarely sad for more than half an hour. However lately I've just crashed. What really sucks about it is that every single part of my life has been getting better. My social skills, my grades literally everything except one situation. I am starting to be able to talk to girls very comfortably as long as they have some social skills. However, the only girl I want and wanted for a while is taken. What makes it worse is she is taken by my best friend. This guy is like a brother to me. So I lost any slim shot I will ever have at getting this girl. Now I want to forget about her. However, since she is going out with my best friend I have to see her a lot. Everytime they touch I actually feel a lurching in my stomach. I want an LTR but I only want one with THIS girl. There's no one else I would consider at this point. The only silver lining is that in 4 months I am moving away from both of them and will prob only see them on weekends. Hopefully that will help me get over her. In a weird way though it is really motivating me to talk to more people to try to find some1 else. Does anyone have any advice on how to be happy again? What helps you get over them?
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You have oneitis.

1. Distance yourself from them for a little while.

2. Play the numbers game and meet lots of other women.

I promise you that'll help.
 
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