I am not as good as them

[antidonjuan]

After reading this site for a while I've learned alot and gained my popularity and worked my way up. I have been hanging around the popular kids these few days and i feel stupid. I was always the funniest guy and the wittiest guy around my "AFC" group because I stand out.

These days I have seen that those most popular people in my grade are better than me... I always thought that I was the great catch because alot of girls show interest in me but compared to those crazy people, I feel nothing

Those people's body language, communication skills, kino, and social intelligence are so natural and exeptional and I feel that I am not even close to become a DJ. Those 4 or 5 top popular people are just too good for me to become better than them socially because they are so natural...

I am not a natural socialist, I've learned to be social and learned body language and kino but they are not smooth.

I've always wanted to become the best at everything in school such as academics and other areas. But socially it is much tougher than academics, I feel like I wanna give up because I know I am no where close to those crazy people.

Today I just felt down because I don't feel superior because I am acting like an AFC towards all the popular people.

Jealousy is still affecting me and I "thought" that I already got rid of it, but it didn't go away. I cannot control my emotions and it is affecting my life.

 

[john paul]

Hey thats great man im in the same spot as you. Iv gone from a nerd to a pretty popular guy that every once in a while hangs out with the top alpha males in the grade.

Its just going to take practice to become like them. The first time I hung out with those guys i was very quiet and didnt do much. They are so loud and get the girls laughing so quickly. It was too imtimidating.


Whenever I get those thoughts in my head i just think yea there are 6 or 9 guys in my grade who are better than me still but theres a ton more guys below me that wish they could touch the girls I get with.

So dont feel down, your improving so much and you will get better with time by just being around these guys, if you put forth the effort to watch and learn every chance you get.

 

[Teh_Wolf]

they've just been at it longer than you man. This is a skill that has to be developed and maintained. the goal is to always be getting better till you die give it time and youll prolly get better at it

 

[War Against Betaism]

Don't worry it's just a phase you're going through. I always go through this when I'm working out, will I get really bigger? Eventually I just keep doing it and then the next thing I notice is I get results. Your mind wants to change immediately and knows that it's not capable of adjusting overnight and feels like it wants to give up. You just have to tell yourself time will have your answer. The guys I hang out with when I was a senior were in all in college. Most of them were 2nd or 3rd years, one of them was even a 4th year. I was the second youngest out of our group and was sort of the pick dog. Right now I don't think I'm at their levels, however, they've recognized the fact that I have progressed with my skills with women. One of them even said "Damn War it's like having a kid, you've developed so much I'm like proud of you." Of course he said it in more of a joking manner but there was still truth to it.

 

[Groovy]

Dude, cool is inside you. Why can't you be cool too?

What's the difference between you and them?

The difference is that you actually convinced yourself that you aren't "at their level". That's ****ing week!

You at least admit it, you're jelaous! You still want their approval, and you're trying too hard. That's DJ thinking? No way!

Stop this dude! First gain your own approval. You're the man!

If you felt good about yourself, you wouldn't have time to worrie about this kind of crap, and you would have a good time...

Stop thinking in this kind of shyt. That's the AFC inside you talking. If you approached the "cool guys" the same way you approached the "geeks", you'd be all right again.

That's when you acted like a king! When you didn't put oh so much value in them. And that's where you failed, and then you saw what happened, you start acting stupid, and you loose your value, and become AFC again.

Instead of spending time worrying that you aren't that good, forget that, and spend your time having fun with them.

That's why they are "naturals". Do you think such toughts even go through their heads? Of course not.

So if you want to be one, loose that self doubt and be your best self. It's all about the mindset dude-.

 

[PrinceKong]

Yea, you need to get it in your head that you ARE the man. Treat all girls, whether they be hot or not, the same. Befriend everybody. Don't think you're the ****, KNOW you're the ****.

And remember don't hang out with them just for the fact that they are popular. Be that guy who is popular, but sticks with his genuine friends.

 

[Jokerlsk]

Why do you care about being popular? You don't have to be popular to be a dj/or happy. Take this from me. At one time in my life i thought popularity was the key to happyness, but it isn't. Hang out with people you want to and don't listen to what other people say to you and about you.

 

[redspicyflag]

Hey you'll get there

you just need more experience

and set those people as goals

to surpass

but right now focus on what makes you happy

enrich your life

and it'll come