"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I am insanely confused...

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TheCarGuyA4

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Ok, I am in this relationship with theis girl, we were good friends for a while and like one day she suddenly told me about all these feelings she had for me. Anyway long story short we are together and have been for like a month. Anyway she has been screwed over by a bunch of guys so she says she wants to take things slow and wants to wait before she kisses me. And by wait it's not like a few weeks, it's a few months. I try to tell her that I am not gonna play her like the other guys and stuff, to make her feel comfortable. In fact she even said one day that she was fighting the urge to kiss me. I need a little perspective from you guys on this matter. Thanks for the help
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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aftershock

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Read the bible.

Theres a link at the top of the page.

You sure as hell need it.

I think that the best tactic in the meantime is to forget her. Red flags all over that post.
 
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StringShredder

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Perspective? People typically kiss within a few dates. The girl has some serious problems entering into any kind of itimacy, or else she's playing you very badly. Months of waiting for a kiss, while she tells you B.S. like she's fighting the urge? Good grief ...

There is no need to break up with her, but since there is no physical intimacy (and even if there were) there is no need to be exclusive. Look for other girls.

A girl who won't kiss you is better than no girl at all.

You can use her to attract other girls.

Take her to places where other girls will see you with her.

She's basically your platonic friend. Nothing wrong with that. Just don't take on her problems.
 
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flexion_

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Yes huge red flags here.

Ignore what she SAYS and judge this relationship by what she DOES. You basically have a friend at this point and nothing more so treat her like that - go out with other women and use this person for something to do if you are bored. Ignore all the drama. She is most likely a mental case though so be prepared and don't get emotionally attached.

You have no relationship with her at this point.
 
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