I am in love with my freind

[yankees2009]

My friend is going through major problems with her boyfriend whom she lives with. The guy is very possessive, jealous and is emotionally abuse to her. She has told me her problems because she truly trusts me, she has cried to me when she told me what is going on. I have been there for her through her tough times. I know everything of the relationship, the problem is that I am truly in Love with her and want to be with her. I know that im eventually going to let her know, My concern is that I do not want to lose her friendship because of this.

she told me that she wants to get out of this relationship, that she does not love this guy anymore. I'm concerned because she told me that he threatened to kill her if she ever left him. I really want to take her away from him and treat her the right way. What would you do in this situation

 

[Serg897]

I refuse to help anyone with a username of "yankees2009"

 

[AFCToDJSlowButSurely]

Go date other girls, dont be a white knight and make her problems yours. You have a case of full fledged Nice Guy Syndrome right now.

Go Mariners.

 

[f283000]

Go date other girls, dont be a white knight and make her problems yours. You have a case of full fledged Nice Guy Syndrome right now.

Go Mariners.

That's right brother. OP you are being nothing but a captain save a ho, nothing but an emotional tampon for this girl.

This girl will end up breaking up with this guy sooner or later to go bang another a**hole and not you! This is how this story usually ends.

 

[JerryFl08]

That's right brother. OP you are being nothing but a captain save a ho, nothing but an emotional tampon for this girl.

This girl will end up breaking up with this guy sooner or later to go bang another a**hole and not you! This is how this story usually ends.

Thats exactly right, there's no better way to say it. If you want to hook up with this girl, confessing your feelings to her will be like shooting yourself in reality..The best thing for you to do is to go and date other girls, and if possible let her know that your dating other people.. Stop wasting your time with her, i can promise you 110 percent she will not hook up with you if you're going to continue being her emotional tampon

 

[Desert Fox]

don't be cap'n save aho.

she chose a ****in abusive loser as a bf. shows her where her priorities and her judgment lies.

forget her. you're not in love. grow some fvcking balls and go bang other chicks. what makes her so special? nothing.

 

[HalfAddict]

*slaps your hand* NO BAD.

 

[Captain]

Read the DJ Bible (link below and at the bottom of the page.) Then read it again, THEN ask a question here if you do not understand something, then apply it in real life.

 

[GetOveIT]

I agree, nice guy and white knight sindrome, next her theres plenty of fish on the sea... and better than her i bet.

 

[kingsam]

she told me that she wants to get out of this relationship, that she does not love this guy anymore.

she wont leave him, she's the kind to stay in an abusive relationship...
so as has been said dont be captain save a ho

be a friend to her nothing more

. I'm concerned because she told me that he threatened to kill her if she ever left him.

if i was you id' be concerned what this crazy guy will do to you when he finds out you've been telling his woman you are in love with her!

 

[SmoothTalker]

Sorry, don't buy it. This is just TOO textbook AFC.

 

[speed dawg]

I'd punch myself in the face, like 100 times or something.

 

[thewickedm]

Somewhere in the OP's post i read the words "emotional tampon".

 

[morepoonplease]

My friend is going through major problems with her boyfriend whom she lives with. The guy is very possessive, jealous and is emotionally abuse to her. She has told me her problems because she truly trusts me, she has cried to me when she told me what is going on. I have been there for her through her tough times. I know everything of the relationship, the problem is that I am truly in Love with her and want to be with her. I know that im eventually going to let her know, My concern is that I do not want to lose her friendship because of this.

she told me that she wants to get out of this relationship, that she does not love this guy anymore. I'm concerned because she told me that he threatened to kill her if she ever left him. I really want to take her away from him and treat her the right way. What would you do in this situation

i'd be concerned too, especially after he figures out your intentions with her... he may as well kill you too if he's already about to do life for killing her.

 

[PRMoon]

Even if you could "save" this girl from her relationship (Which is a stupid idea), in all likely hood she'll go out and find someone else, exactly the same as this guy and be back in the same position inside of a year.

Once a drama addict, always a drama addict.

 

[sodbuster]

Unless you can b1tch slap her around,treat her like sh1t,etc. you'll never date her-thats how she's wired

 

[yankees2009]

well just want to say thanks to everyone who posted.

As I said this girl that works with me is a very close friend, I understand that people here suggest I should let it go. I know a couple of guys that have stolen girls from other men and their still together. Some people have told me that if i truly want her than make the move but plan it carefully. Ive told her a couple of times to leave him he is no good. Unfortunately, I believe that she is very scared. If it works out great, If it does not I plan on keeping her as my friend.

 

[horaholic]

Keep her as a friend, and you will continue to be tortured, and you'll screw yourself over as far as other women go too. You're not really her friend, you're just infatuated with her. Also, she is not your friend either, she just likes how much attention you pay to her. its very unhealthy, and the sooner you break away from this situation the better. Get your mind on other women, pronto.

 

[backbreaker]

My friend's BF is a DJ and she is mad becuase she can't control him and he pisses her off but he really lays the pipe down so she really isn't going anywhere as much as she says she is. The guy has her under his thumb.She told me her prob lems becuase i was stupid enough to listen and think that somehow me listening to her would turn her on and make her want to blow me, she is also an attention *****. I have been there for her through her tough times becuase she's ****ing hot and i want to get laid.Everything about me reeks of being a chump with this girl. Even though she thinks I don't think she knows, I know she knows that I love her.

She keeps telling me that she wants to get out of this relationship to keep me around as she knows i have the hots for her, thatway she can get the emotional **** from me and the **** from him. I'm concerned because she made up some **** about her threanting to kill her so that she can get some emotional response out of me, she ever left him in fact she's probbaly getting laid right.....wait for it.. now. I want to PIITB in the absolute worst way. What would you really ld you do in this situation

I re wrote that for you to be a little more accurate. there were a few discrepancies.

 

[backbreaker]

Sorry, don't buy it. This is just TOO textbook AFC.

I really remember being probably worse than this guy. my old oneitis uses to get on the phone wtih me and talk about, like crack on her BF than go get laid by him and somehow i thought I was winning lol