I am in a HORRIBLE slump. What's wrong?

[WillieSacks]

I haven't gotten laid since July and I feel like I'm slipping. That was also around the time that I got out of school (temporarily) and just recently moved out to live on my own.

Also around July was when I really started focusing on going out on 'dates' and that $hit hasn't gotten me anywhere. I also have bad luck with getting girls that are on the rebound. I just don't know what's up.


I've been on like 6 dates with 4 different women and keep striking out.

It just seems like $hit keeps happening that keeps preventing me from scoring and I'm getting impatient.

The good news is that the town I just moved to is where I finished HS and I just turned 21 and I'm starting to go out A LOT but I just don't know what's up.

With one chick I went out with, we ended up at her house 'making out' during a movie until her b/f (ex bf now) called and said he was coming over, so of course I had to bail. If only I had come over 2 hours earlier when she called.....She ended up going out of town the next day then she emailed me saying that when she got back that we should 'hang out' before I left. Ok so I ended up calling her and she never returned any of my calls when she came back. She ended up calling back AFTER I left town. WTF

I planned to go out with this one chick whose number I got and we actually set up a 'date' only, I didn't have a cell phone at the time and I missed her call, I called her back and she was asleep. So I don't call for a few days, next thing I know one of my friends tells me he hit that on the first night. Of course I didn't want her ass anymore after that.

I just had a bad experience in this thread http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39040 that just about knocked the wind out of my sails and now it's just really stressing me out. The funny thing about that experience was that was the first girl I talked to when I moved out here and that was what I got.

One reason why I'm really upset is b/c I know it's not me, it's them, I look good, I act right and I'm doing everything to not fukk $hit up but something always comes up or I'm just NOT IN THE RIGHT PLACE AT THE RIGHT TIME, which has a lot to do with getting laid.

I've gotten numbers but I just don't feel like calling and setting up dates only to spend money and have it get me nowhere so from now on I'm just going to parties and clubs to get my ONS on. I have mad SP out here b/c this where I graduated from HS but this last month just got me thinking plus I feel I wasted a month out here on that chick.

I'm thinking of doing this, where the only dates I go out on are dates, where we go drinking first, then go clubbing afterwards, or just having girls come over to my crib, but there is like no privacy because it's me and 2 of my roomates.

I'm just posting this thread just to see if anyone else has gone through these slumps and what do you do get get yourself back on track. Thanks.

 

[violator]

As a matter of fact I am going through somewhat of a slump myself. Earlier in the year I had a string of successful pickups that ended in 5 STR's and 1 LTR. Back then I was juggling 6 girls, but for various reasons, they all dropped out of the picture. All that was in May. Since then I have not been able to hook up at all. I attribute this mainly to the following:

1. Personal Problems: When you have problems that you need to deal with, it tends to focus your attention away from women
and therefore, your "game" is adversly affected. How can you think of hooking upwith women, when you have more important things to deal with? Naturally, when your mind is preoccupied with pressing matters, it is very difficult to concentrate on scoring with women.

2. Career/Business Aspirations: Quite frankly, I have not put much attention to women these days, because I am focused on more important matters to me, which is mainly my career and making money. My energies are directed at greater priorities right now. When I achieve my personal goals, then I can invest more of my time and energy on women.

3. Depression: Once in a while you will like shyt for whatever reason. It could be that you got fired from your job, you are going through a divorce, you did not get the promotion you wanted, etc. This mood change will undoubtedly affect your ability to approach and score with women. If you give off a negative vibe, then women will sense this and not respond accordingly. The most succesful seducers and PUAs I know always have a positive and cheerful attitude.


4. Natural Ebb and Flow: I have noticed that even if things are going great with you, once in a while you will experience a slump. The length of the inevitable slump varies. It could be a matter of weeks or months, but it is bound to happen, even to the best DJ's and there is nothing you can do about it.

This is just a generalized depiction of what causes you to be in a slump with women. You must realize that you are not alone and most likely it has nothing to do with you. You must view these things as cyclical in nature. Eventually you will come out of it and start hooking up again. It is inevitable.


Right now, I don't really care for women much as I have stated I am focused on other things. Also, I still have several longtime FB's who I see occassionally to satisfy my sexual urges. It seems, though that my don't give a fyck attitude is starting to pay off because this new 8.5 receptionist has been giving me very strong buying signals lately. In due time, I will make a move and see if there is anything there.

Don't sweat the many rejections and BS from women. Just move on when you encounter them. Remember it is a numbers game.

 

[chlywly]

Don't stress, don't whine just pick yourself up back on your feet! and do what you want to do. If you want to get laid then go pick up women and keep doing it...

I havnt gotten laid since April, then again i've had opportunities I just didn't want to Really it depends on what YOU WANT.

Think, Do, BE!.. = action... Just don't sit around and create theory or contemplate your sorrow...

 

[WillieSacks]

Thx for the replies fellas. I think you pointed out a couple of examples that may have to do with me but I'm actually trying to get some but it just ain't happening. I guess you (Violator) have other things going for you and aren't actively pursuing. I also think reason #1 and part of #3 have something to do with my slumping.

I gotta get me some F*** buddies.