"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I am going nuts!
- Thread starter Agent47
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
the best you can do is to make a deal with her and tell her that you will stay in her apartment and use her car to work until you save enough money to move out.
dont think about gaining her back because it will almost be impossible. she already made up her mind to dump you.
think of her as if you already lost her for ever and it will help you to forget her.
" a soldier in war only stops worrying about death when he starts to believe that he is already dead" and there is nothing he cand do about it.
Alpine
Master Don Juan
I think the bottom line is to see it as a no lose scenerio (especially now you have found this site)
If she doesn't want you, you don't want her. It's a new opportunity to apply the DJ stuff, have a whale of a time and then pick from a position of choice a rational, fit loving LTGF.
If she comes back I'd break her balls, make sure it's on your terms, work on the principle you win if she goes, you win if she stays.
This could be the best opportunity you have ever had.
PuertoRican_Lover
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Don Juanabbe
Master Don Juan
This is simply pathetic. My stomach is now churning reading some of this crap.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Desdinova
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Get some friends or relatives together who have cars and get your stuff out of there. Find yourself at least a temporary place to stay.
I feel for ya. I was in this situation and it's stressful as all hell, except I put up with it until the very end.
cave dweller
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Hey,
Cut your losses and get the hell out now.........
cave dweller