I am getting laid, but I feel that I can be doing better!

[ChapStick]

I've been with my current g/f for over 10 months. She has been completely into me. I get laid everyday, and it's not me asking for it, it's her. She is crazy about me and does anything I ask her to do. She's an HB 8 and is completely faithful to me. She keeps me well sexed and puts up with a LOT of **** that I give her.

The thing is, I feel that I can do better. Not just looks-wise, but I want a girl that hasn't been with many guys. My girl is 20 and has been with 5 guys in the course of a year. 7 guys total, including me. I was the fastest to get laid by her. I slept with her within a week of us knowing each other and that was the fastest shes ever been laid by any of the guys.

I've tried to break up with her in the past, but part of me is still attached and she knows it and just tells me I don't mean it when I want to split. I want to see her as only a sex object and get rid of my emotional connection. How do I do this?

I am not going to college, and I'm not 21, so how do I meet women that are just plain good girls? I have a good girl, but I don't know why I feel that I can do better...

I'm an attractive guy, but my problem is meeting girls that I can start a conversation with. I am not planning on cheating on my gf, I would never do that! I just simply want to see if I'm settling for the best....

I know a lot of guys on here would give anything to be in my position, but I don't know why I'm not happy.......

 

[Zaraza]

If your not happy then there is something missing. Since you got sex covered and shes pretty hot. Are you sure your not lookin for some sorta emotional connection? Thats the only thing i can see that would make you do this. Or possibly is there a chick you met that's stuck in your mind? If you are not happy, thats a problem. I don't know what the other guys think, but if im not happy i gotta change my situation.

Im not saying dump her, because it might not be her causing the unhappiness. You feel like you can do better because you know you can do better and you want better. You have ambition.

 

[Sir_Turtle]

A girl isn't gonna make you happy dude? If your not happy without one you won't be happy with one. Simple basic rule that you should be aware of.

 

[vitor]

Is the grass greener my friend??? Once you end it, it is over my .02cents. Go out and look around but do not do anything drastic. Put yourself in situations to meet girls. Happy hour, guys night out on the town, etc.. What do you do for a living? Do you live near a major city? Do you have some single friends? How did you meet this girl?? Find a trendy little area and on any given friday from 4-7 there should be tons of business professional chicks sitting around getting Hammered.

 

[ChapStick]

Right now I work in sales, and I'm working on getting enough money to send myself to college to learn a trade. I don't have many friends, because I just moved to where I am now about a year ago. The reason I have a girlfriend is because she saw me at my work and basically picked me up. I should be happy! But I'm not! And I feel like it's because I've turned my life to make her the center.

I used to work out, tan, work overtime at my job to have some extra cash to buy nicer clothes. But ever since she entered my life my priorities have changed. I am missing something in my life. Maybe it's the problems with my family or what not, but I need to figure this out. I love having her in my life, it's as if I'm addicted to her.. She's my drug! And I wish she wasn't because I feel that a woman in my life is holding me back.... I've talked to her about this, and she has told me that she will support me through whatever.. Offered to go to the gym with me, go biking with me... etc.. I have the girl that many would dream of, and I'm not happy with her!! THe only bad I see in her is her past of being with other guys.

I lost my virginity to this girl.... Maybe that's the problem. I grew up in the church and was taught to save myself till marriage. I feel that this somehow has ****ed with my happiness! Either that, or they're right and I should find a virgin girl...

I feel dumb for making a thread about this, but I could use some sort of support from my fellow DJ's.

I'll take your advice vitor and not jump to anything. I'm just gonna keep things as they are and slowly work things out and find out how to be happy again.

 

[Zaraza]

are you still working out? do you have time to do it? try to start working out/ tanning/ biking, do something you used to work on before. If she is willing to help you thats even better, you wont be doing this alone. Give it a try, if time allows it wont hurt.

She sounds like a girl who cares about you, those are hard to find. Take it slow with yourself and you will get back on track. But do try working out.

 

[vitor]

I am a manager and workin on my PHD, I am almost 30 so take what I say as I am just a little older than you and giving you my best wisdom. I think you are having a little mini midlife crisis. You are missing the things you used to do, you are looking 10 miles down the road instead of looking at the road right in front of you. I know the army paid for my masters degree as well as my PHD, something you might want to think about.

Now for not working out, tanning etc, you are doing this because you got the girl and in the back of your mind think she will love you if you get a tad chubby and have pale skin. You are not the man you were before you two met. It is normal, and often why people break up, she was so hot and tan, and nice to me, then 1 year later she is pale, fat and a *****.

Look into some community college classes, go running outside, do push ups, situps, and if you are paying for a gym membership get in there. The body likes to work out you will feel better after a few workouts.

You sound torn when you want to break up with her, then she is like your drug?

What kind of sales are you in?

 

[theunflushables]

Just like someone trying to quit heroin or crack. They want to quit, but they just can't because they're addicted. You're not addicted to her, you're addicted to the security. You go off on your own again and who knows what happens next. But right now everything is comfortable and there are no worries. If you feel you can do better, you can.

Part of it may be your age too. You're not even 21 yet, and you're getting to that settling down point in a relationship. In another 6 to 8 months she is going to be expecting a ring. If you're not ready to be tied down, be truthful.

 

[playerone]

I'm feeling maybe you just want to hang around being a player, instead of settling down? And along the way settle with the best you can find. Well, humans are just never contented with what they have. You want to try different things.

 

[DonJuan11]

I've been with my current g/f for over 10 months. She has been completely into me. I get laid everyday, and it's not me asking for it, it's her. She is crazy about me and does anything I ask her to do. She's an HB 8 and is completely faithful to me. She keeps me well sexed and puts up with a LOT of **** that I give her.

The thing is, I feel that I can do better. Not just looks-wise, but I want a girl that hasn't been with many guys. My girl is 20 and has been with 5 guys in the course of a year. 7 guys total, including me. I was the fastest to get laid by her. I slept with her within a week of us knowing each other and that was the fastest shes ever been laid by any of the guys.

I've tried to break up with her in the past, but part of me is still attached and she knows it and just tells me I don't mean it when I want to split. I want to see her as only a sex object and get rid of my emotional connection. How do I do this?

I am not going to college, and I'm not 21, so how do I meet women that are just plain good girls? I have a good girl, but I don't know why I feel that I can do better...

I'm an attractive guy, but my problem is meeting girls that I can start a conversation with. I am not planning on cheating on my gf, I would never do that! I just simply want to see if I'm settling for the best....

I know a lot of guys on here would give anything to be in my position, but I don't know why I'm not happy.......

You:

- have a hot girlfriend
- have a young girlfriend
- slept with her in a week
- get to have sex everyday with her
- she's in love with you

And you are frustrated that you are having too much sex with her? Most people on here can't even have sex.

 

[macallik]

The thing is, I feel that I can do better. Not just looks-wise, but I want a girl that hasn't been with many guys. My girl is 20 and has been with 5 guys in the course of a year. 7 guys total, including me. I was the fastest to get laid by her. I slept with her within a week of us knowing each other and that was the fastest shes ever been laid by any of the guys.

I've met virgin's who weren't worth sh!t. How much men someone sleeps with is a poor correlation to how worthy she is. It sounds like the issue lies with you and not with her...

 

[ChapStick]

I've met virgin's who weren't worth sh!t. How much men someone sleeps with is a poor correlation to how worthy she is. It sounds like the issue lies with you and not with her...

I'm starting to realize that my source of unhappiness is not me being unhappy with my g/f... But it's coming from me being unhappy with myself.

One of the posters above is correct. I feel as if I'm in a mini mid-life crisis. I work in cellular phone sales. I'm trying to get a better job, trying to move out of my parents home, and just make myself matter for my own benefit. My parents look at me like I'm scum because I chose not to go to college.

At first I was thinking a new girl would bring happiness into my life, but now I'm not sure if that;s the case.

And thanks for that post about some virgins not being worth ****. I feel like an ******* for judging my gf based on the number of guys shes slept with. She's so pretty and when I look at her face, it just hurts me inside that such an innocent looking young woman gave her body away to guys so easily. Guys that were total losers too.... It's like she had no standards and I'm not gonna lie, it makes me feel like I've got a girl that's not the best I can get...

I'm gonna be going on a road trip with my g/f to California (I grew up there), so hopefully being in a new setting will help the both of us...