I am fvcking confused. Please help.

[Adrian]

Ok... here's the story. I've been in a 2 year relationship with a woman about 3 years younger than me. I'm 22 right now. Everything was going well until a new "male friend" stepped into the picture. They haven't known each other for too long... Maybe for about a month. I don't know this guy at all but from the stories I've been hearing this guy really really wants my girl. He's been trying to game her for the past month and I really thought nothing of it until now. My gf (HB 9.5) gets hit on just about all the time and I'm already used to it but when it comes to this guy he is very persistent and just wouldn't stop coming on to her. I try not to display jeleousy because lately my girlfriend has been treating me... Differently. For instance she was always there for me when I needed her and now she seems very busy and our schedules somehow conflict. She also seems to be on the phone or online with this person for an awfully long time. This was never a problem until recently. I'm also sick of hearing how "great", "cool", "nice", "cute" this fvcker is and how she really "misses" him when he's not around. She had enough nerve to tell me to my face that she "likes so and so ALOT". On top of that the sex just... faded and she says she just can't get aroused anymore and it got "old". I had enough balls to confront her about this and tell her what I think of this problem. I told her straight up that I don't appreciate her being around men who are persistently trying to get in her pants. She tells me not to worry about it because "he is a perfect guy but never someone who she would consider dating" as well as other things such as "I miss him and can't wait until the next time him and I get to do something". I'm like "wtf"? After this she gets mad at me and tells me that I play too many games by not saying anything about this issue until now and is sick of me not respecting her decisions. I threatened to break up the relationship if her respect for me was not taken into consideration and then she responded by saying... "You don't have to worry about it because I'll do the breaking up for you". After this we have gotten into an argument (which I should have walked away from) and this all ended up destroying my LTR. I'm confused and I like to know just what the hell happened? Any guys around here ever expirienced this? PS. She isn't the cheating type. I know that for a fact. However she keeps denying ever wanting to date him.

 

[Adrian]

On top of this ALL her friends seem to want this guy. Considering that a lot of females make their decisions tofeel like the best thing in their circle of friends I'm sure this influenced her as well. Fvcking women... Can't live without em and can't shoot them.

 

[Adrian]

Anybody...???

 

[Tomatoes]

Sounds pretty **** mate. Your no fool.....she is proper into him and she was letting you down slowly. Yes. If all your friends fancy someone it will make you like that person more. I would go give this dude a "talking to". Bastard...Hes clearly stolen your girl. Reading up...you prob took the "staying out of it" for too long. If my girl started saying the above **** about another guy i would be like WTF on her ass straight away :cuss:.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

Here is a very unorthadox tactic. Threaten to beat the guy up, push him around, tahe the piss etc. Only do this between you and him so no one else knows. He will go running to your girlfreind to tlel her what you are doing. You dennie it complety, act mature, make it seem as if there is no way you could have possibly done this. But then cary on doing it. He comes running back to her complaining, but you dennie it and act mature. Eventualy she may get sick of his wingeing about you.

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Take a step back and look at this realistically she is 18, you started dating her when she was 15. This girl probably lost her virginity to you and now she has gotten bored and moved on. She understandably doesn't want to be with just one guy for her whole life and my bet is she slowly started realizing this and that is why she ended the relationship. You need to understand women are not monogamous angels they want to experiment to and she probably loves you but she realized she doesn’t want to spend the rest of her life with you.

The fact that all her friends wanted him didn’t help at all either.

You may not realize it now but your relationship ending is the best thing that will ever happen to you. Now you can go out and meet new women and catch up on what you missed out on for the past 3 years.

 

[Adrian]

Assumed she didn't want to spend the rest of her life with just one guy??? I thought the same exact thing man and I don't buy it... That's bullsh!t. She can go ***** herself around...I'm going to go out and do the same exact thing. Starting now she is no longer my problem.

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Assumed she didn't want to spend the rest of her life with just one guy??? I thought the same exact thing man and I don't buy it... That's bullsh!t. She can go ***** herself around...I'm going to go out and do the same exact thing. Starting now she is no longer my problem.

Man I know it's hard to hear but it is probably right.

Yeh do it get out there and do your thing, get back in the game. Think about you been dating her since you were 18 do you still want to be f*cking the same pus*y in 70 years?

NO!

You are young now you waster 3 years already these are the days you should be having the most fun you will ever have in your life. These are the day you want to look back on in 40 years and say damn I had a fun life. If you were still with her how do you think you would feel in 40 years?

You would look back and say "what a f*cking waste".

Don't become a statistic for midlife crises.

You will look back in 40 years at this moment and be happy that you broke up with her.........trust me.

 

[Adrian]

The thing is man... I was never the "player" kinda guy. I don't get the same satisfaction from screwing as many *****es as possible as I do from a long term serious loving relationship. I may sound like a pansy to most here but this is just the way I am.

 

[Adrian]

Especially considering that I'm a man and I should be thinking differently. It'sso disgusting and like a slap in the face when a woman engages in stupid male behavior. Dammit... This is not the best time for me to be feeling this way.... I think I'm going to be sick.

 

[LeviathanIYG]

Players are tools because they lie, cheat and manipulate women and you don't think you can get ideal gratification from several sex based relationships because you mind is not conditioned to the thinking outside of the boundaries society sets.

Sounds a little confusing huh?

How about we make it simple try having casual sex for a month or so and see if you like it. Trust me like all people (yes people not just men) when you do it you will start liking it.

Just try it.........

What’s the worse that could happen?

You have sex with a few girls and confirm that you hate it then you find another long term thing.

If you don't try it you will regret it.

 

[Spookey]

The best revenge is a life well lived

you have been with her for a while and have gotten used to that. were you planning on marrying her? my guess is no. therefore one part of you has accepted that you will break up. embrace this forward thinking. dont be sad because its over, be happy because all the hotties out there, they are now available!!!

i would think one of the goals of this site was not get people laid, but to make them better and more complete people who handled everyday life a lot better than your average joe. this means recognising that things are on the way down and out, and when push finally does come to shove, you take it like a man.
you aren't a pansy, i fully understand your desire not to be a sleazeball who just uses and abuses. you will be a pansy if you cling to something after it is over, if you cannot be a man and move on then yeah you are a pansy!

think of it, there are heaps and HEAPS of girls out there. you are a complex individual right? so how could one girl ever be able to meet all your needs? she cant! if you "love" someone you gloss over someones bad parts and/or just accept them for who they are. you will find other girls, dont worry about that. i mean hell, you have female friends right? why are they friends? beacuse they do not have enough qualities that make them GF material. some are better friends because they have more good qualities, all different. same thing just expanded. more girls = more differing qualities.