i am dumbfounded by her actions

[dj77]

I would say I am perceptive when it comes to finding out the hidden agenda or seeing through someone's behavior. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We've been together for about 6 months. Everything was great until this last month. All of a sudden she blocks me out, emotionally, everything you can possibly think of. It's like she is a whole new person who all of sudden doesn't care about the way I feel. She won't even tell me she loves me anymore. Well my first hunch is that she may have found someone else, secretly seeing him until she axed me.

What do you guys think of this type of behavior?

 

[KontrollerX]

Has her behavior always been great with you until now or did it start off good and then become really great?

See posters often don't give us enough information to go on in their opening post so we have to ask many questions to get to the heart of a matter.

What I'm looking for with these questions is a massive change in her behavior.

See clueless guys as we all once were tend to only look for bad behavior changes in a girlfriend to determine whether things are going to sh!t or will go to sh!t soon but the end can also be preceded by good behavior as well either slightly better or incredibly good behavior at that.

Though the main thing you look for is a change in behavior.

Any drastic change.

 

[daring wraith]

Dear Mr. DJ77

I had a similar situation last year, but i'd only been with the girl 3 months. Anyways without further info i can only draw 2 scenarios:

1) She has come to the conclusion that she wants to start afresh, get some order back into life and forget all about her old intimate relations, i.e. you.
Thats what my ex of long ago wanted.

2) She may have found someone else, but this is tricky. If you confront her with evidence she may take this badly and hate you, i.e. cue extremely emotional scene.

In conclusion, i think shes made up her mind and i can only advise you let he go. Relationships of any kind are compromises and she doesn't want to meet you half way.

Sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear,

Regards,

Adrian

P.S. Could you post more information on how she blanks you, what does she say? and if its not too personal why did you break up?

 

[WC2]

It's not that she 'needs time' or wants to 'start fresh.'

Simply she's found someone else or has her eye on someone else.

Most of the time they've already had sexual relations with this person before they've made their deicison.

A woman in her right mind wouldn't leave her boyfriend she loved unless she has found someone else who she is emotionally in love with more. When I say emotionally, it's usually sexually as well.

Guys always act so dumbfounded when their girls change demeanor and I always ask, "how many times have you two had sex in the past month?"

"Um.. maybe once or twice"

MAYBE once or twice. Well there you go. She's banging someone else. Either that or she hates sex with you.

Either way, there's always an explanation for something. And most likely it's NOT the one she's going to give you. That's a called a false excuse.

 

[sodbuster]

remember actions speak louder than words. Don't believe a word that comes out of her mouth if it disagrees with her actions. If the behaviou is worse-leave

 

[daring wraith]

It's not that she 'needs time' or wants to 'start fresh.'

Simply she's found someone else or has her eye on someone else.

Most of the time they've already had sexual relations with this person before they've made their deicison.

There's always an explanation for something. And most likely it's NOT the one she's going to give you. That's a called a false excuse.

Good post, i think you're right.... damn its a harsh world we live in.

 

[Corey]

ahh if you are afc they get bored my ex did & I broke up with her. She stopped calling as much, caring where I was, sex.
She just got bored and by time I got my act together it was too late really. Just learnt a hell of alot from it.

 

[horaholic]

Best thing to do is beat her to the punch, and walk away first. Dont have a long talk with her about it either, or you will end up with the blame, and you may find out something you dont really want to know.

Then, examine your actions in the relationship, and figure out ways you can improve for next time. Learn from it, and go out and bang all this chicks friends ASAP.

 

[Rex Man]

He's....I'm sorry She's just not that into you. No one can be sure why, and it doesn't really matter. All that's really left to do is dust yourself off and get back to gaming other women.