"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Seriously. I am done. For good.

This girl I've dated for 6 months isn't right. She doesn't have a clue. I've done everything I can to make this work and I'm out of time and energy.

I expect a few things from a girl when I date her and I haven't gotten any of them. Why have I stuck around? The sex isn't even that good.

She never calls to ask how my day is. She never invites me out with friends. I can't even go inside her home. She doesn't get along with her parents. I take her out and she doesn't say a word, not even "thank you". She whines about everything and is completely negative. My friends don't even like her. She kisses me with fish lips and refuses to "make out". She is the most un-affectionate person I've ever dated. She refuses to hold my hand in public.

She blames all of this on the fact that her dad physically abused her until she was 18 yrs old. I feel bad for her because of this but I can't do anything about it. She refuses to change or get help.

I'm trying to save this girl but I can't do this to myself. She sucks at life and I need to move on.

Somebody please give me some advice.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Stop going for women you think need to be "rescued".
 
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I don't mean to but it just happens sometimes. At first I thought she was a great girl but over time her true colors started to show.
 
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djSlvt said:
Moe on. HB is made by looks + personality (+ money). She don't have the last two, leave.
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You are right. I need to just tell her to go away and move on. I asked my best friend what he thought of her and this is exactly what he said.

"She's cute. Not hot but cute and not cute in a classy way. She has no personality. It's like she's on her own planet. She sucks at life and you can do so much better."

Hahaha. He always tells me how it is.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Unless she lives with you don't have to tell her squat. And if you do "Hun, I assumed you are the type of girl I want to spend the rest of my life with, but you lied. There is no future between us." But but but, you're an a55hole. "I only talk to women I want to fvck, good bye."
 
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she sounds horrible, just what is it that you actually like about her?
 
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Ya ta da da...its Captain Save-A-Hoe...haha

Naw but yea, it should be a girl of whom would benefit you more so than how you would benefit her in the end...course it starts with her first(as always, she's gotta be comfortable with u and trust u) than more to you over time.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Just next her. Since you've already tried your best, there's no point in continuing as the result will remain like this.

N to the E to the X to the T is the way to go.
 
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Industry said:
Seriously. I am done. For good.

This girl I've dated for 6 months isn't right. She doesn't have a clue. I've done everything I can to make this work and I'm out of time and energy.
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way too long. 6mths is a huge investment of energy and of your life... you'll never get it back.

I expect a few things from a girl when I date her and I haven't gotten any of them. Why have I stuck around? The sex isn't even that good.
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but its sex for now, just take it.

She never calls to ask how my day is. She never invites me out with friends. I can't even go inside her home. She doesn't get along with her parents. I take her out and she doesn't say a word, not even "thank you". She whines about everything and is completely negative. My friends don't even like her. She kisses me with fish lips and refuses to "make out". She is the most un-affectionate person I've ever dated. She refuses to hold my hand in public.
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Your not worth kissing or holding hands. Might be you, not her... you are not that attractive to her.

She blames all of this on the fact that her dad physically abused her until she was 18 yrs old. I feel bad for her because of this but I can't do anything about it. She refuses to change or get help.
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She's lying... just an excuse to make you give her sympathy.. its a very cruel card to use, and just goes to show that she has no respect for her parents.

If you break up with her, you need to let it go.. Not feel sorry for her and take her back. It might be the case that she doesn't care either judging from her attitude that you have described. You will not advance and learn if you stay with her. Its time to make plans to bail and find someone else first, then let her know that it is over. I find that this transition is the best way. You get to have sex until the next bus comes along.
 
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Dude, seems to me like you're just wasting time and energy...not to mention plenty posibilities with girls worth a hell of alot more of your time and energy...
 
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She's lying... just an excuse to make you give her sympathy.. its a very cruel card to use, and just goes to show that she has no respect for her parents.
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Ouche....I know a girl like that.

Hahaha, she tried to play my friends, but they saw past her.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Yeah I talked to her and told her I was dating somebody else. She can kiss my a$$ goodbye.

New girl. 27, UCLA Grad, Teacher, Personality, Cute.

Good times.
 
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Where did you meet this new girl at? That was quick. I'm in a rut right now meeting new people.
 
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I met her through a mutual friend. She is roomates with her and we went out for tacos the other day and we're going to get a drink tonight.

Yeah it was pretty quick. Funny how that works.
 
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How to crack a rut.
1. Step back and ask yourself what is going wrong.
2. Evaluate your technique.
3. Reamp, refocus, reattempt.

Once you start hitthing success again, it'll start rolling.
 
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Industry said:
Seriously. I am done. For good.

This girl I've dated for 6 months isn't right. She doesn't have a clue. I've done everything I can to make this work and I'm out of time and energy.

I expect a few things from a girl when I date her and I haven't gotten any of them. Why have I stuck around? The sex isn't even that good.

She never calls to ask how my day is. She never invites me out with friends. I can't even go inside her home. She doesn't get along with her parents. I take her out and she doesn't say a word, not even "thank you". She whines about everything and is completely negative. My friends don't even like her. She kisses me with fish lips and refuses to "make out". She is the most un-affectionate person I've ever dated. She refuses to hold my hand in public.

She blames all of this on the fact that her dad physically abused her until she was 18 yrs old. I feel bad for her because of this but I can't do anything about it. She refuses to change or get help.

I'm trying to save this girl but I can't do this to myself. She sucks at life and I need to move on.

Somebody please give me some advice.
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Stop trying to save her. You cant save people from themselves. And just break up with her. Problem solved.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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