I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Oh God, where to begin? First a guy rattles of a resume to a girl as though she's the CEO of ***** Inc. obviously begging for approval, then he encourages men to do the same, only to conclude that a man 'needs' a woman. :cuss:My Personal Resume
by G-Man
I met a girl at work about 6 months ago and we had a couple of very nice dates. The first one, I'd say, was the best first date I'd ever been on.
I wasn't initially super-attracted to this particular woman, and she wasn't what anyone would consider to be a "10". But I enjoyed talking to her so much that an attraction grew.
This is the first time I was willing to date a "tweener". A few pounds either way would make her really hot or really not. And I was proud of myself for not being shallow. That being said, I'm no "10" myself.
After our second date, I just got a really weird vibe. I asked her if we were just out on a date, or just out as "friends". She thought we were just friends.
We all know how that word, coming from a woman, feels. Personally, I'd rather get punched in the face than hear that ever again. Needless to say, my self-esteem was wounded.
Anyway, being a good sales rep, I summed up for her, in a light-hearted kind of way, all of the reasons I thought she should give me a try. I told her, "I'm 6'4" tall, good body, nice guy, six-figure income, witty, smart, lots of cash in the bank." She didn't disagree.
But then I realized something. I've got a pretty solid personal resume. I just never said it out loud before. This chick was turning down what was probably the best offer she would ever get!
I felt better immediately.
So guys, if you get turned down by a "tweener" or a "10", forget about it. Remind yourself of your good points, and get back out there.
Not every woman has to like you. Ultimately, you only need one.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
Tha Realnezz said:^ALOT of women.
He didn't make his intentions clear that's why I'm against this C and F and neg hits crap.It comes off as freindly and innocent.
I'd rather go for full blown compliments and sexual advances right off the bat.