I am absolutely horrible with women and want to change...

[cali4nialove]

Hi. Probably stupid questions but please bear with me. I MUST change.

I am a sophomore in high school and, as each day passes, its getting later and later for me to change mmyself. I am good at making friends and hang out with all the kids who chicks absolutely love, but I'm still the one in the group who cant get far with a girl. I am not terrible with women, and I still flirt around and make them laugh. I can make a woman laugh almost instantly, Im known to be the really funny guy in school. But still, I dont have many numbers or talk to many women.

It pisses me off on the inside when chicks obsess over other guys or run up to them and give em a big hug when they see them while Im just sitting there wondering why a chick has never treated me like that. I've come to blame it on my looks because I have dat dere huge nose. look decent from front, but horrible from side. Also, I havent been on a date with a girl in a long time, the last time I went, I had my arm around her shoulders while we were walking and sat down but still got rejected on the kiss.

I see all those guys who get invited to kickbacks, parties, events while I just sit there like an idiot watching them with jealousy. I've never yet been invited to a party

I posted this because... Im wondering if I can get ANY advice or links to read. I want to be just like all those other guys who chicks suck up to, treat nicer, love spending time with, run up to say hi to them, and admire them. You all know or remember those people in your high school years, just think of them again.

Thanks.

 

[Eph]

You've already accomplished the first step: talking to them. The only reason you don't have any numbers is because YOU haven't asked for any. Women aren't just going to say "hey, you're funny. Here's my number". It can happen, but women in general aren't bold enough to do it. You want numbers, go get them! My advice is to set up something with one (or more) of the women you want on the spot and TELL them (not ask) them to give you their number so you can tell when when, where, etc.

If you're really getting pissed off, you should be pissed off at yourself for not doing anything about this. Women really aren't that hard to understand. They are really simple minded creatures. You've got to take that first step, most of them won't do it for you. And get this notion about your looks out of your head. This is negative thinking (which doesn't help), and looks have very little to do with how girls will respond to guys.

Start by reading the DJ Bible. Both the regular one and the high-school one: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=33715

I'd also recommend http://www.highschool-game.net

 

[cali4nialove]

You've already accomplished the first step: talking to them. The only reason you don't have any numbers is because YOU haven't asked for any. Women aren't just going to say "hey, you're funny. Here's my number". It can happen, but women in general aren't bold enough to do it. You want numbers, go get them! My advice is to set up something with one (or more) of the women you want on the spot and TELL them (not ask) them to give you their number so you can tell when when, where, etc.

If you're really getting pissed off, you should be pissed off at yourself for not doing anything about this. Women really aren't that hard to understand. They are really simple minded creatures. You've got to take that first step, most of them won't do it for you. And get this notion about your looks out of your head. This is negative thinking (which doesn't help), and looks have very little to do with how girls will respond to guys.

Start by reading the DJ Bible. Both the regular one and the high-school one: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=33715

I'd also recommend http://www.highschool-game.net

Thank you man. I just want to improve myself to be like all my friends. I will check out those links.

 

[cali4nialove]

Thanks man. Ill be sure to check out those links. I'm motivated to change and I will.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

The common theme throughout your post is that you don't take any action towards getting those things. You dare not integrate yourself better socially so you can be a part of these parties. Neither do you dare take chances with women. You can't expect them to develop interest in you without you taking some sort of action first.

 

[cali4nialove]

The common theme throughout your post is that you don't take any action towards getting those things. You dare not integrate yourself better socially so you can be a part of these parties. Neither do you dare take chances with women. You can't expect them to develop interest in you without you taking some sort of action first.

How do you recommend I got about getting more socially involved, more well known. Also, any types of stuff that is considered annoying or unattractive.

 

[DanZy]

How do you recommend I got about getting more socially involved, more well known. Also, any types of stuff that is considered annoying or unattractive.

Seriously dude. you're asking how to get more socially involved? Join clubs, talk to more people etc. It's simple

 

[cali4nialove]

Seriously dude. you're asking how to get more socially involved? Join clubs, talk to more people etc. It's simple

I'm good man. I started by inviting a bunch of friends to play mini golf, and telling them to each bring a friend.

 

[twentee]

why bother? all it will do is get you to be a daddy by the time you are 21, and ruin your chances of having/doing anything for the rest of your life. Look, man, get 1/4 mill in the bank, learn to invest properly, and if you still can't score, spend 25k on plastic surgery and FIX that 'ugly mug' of yours. Pvssy will still be available when you are 25, or 50, so blow it off for now and learn to fight, shoot, drive, make money and invest it, so that you can RETIRE by age 30 (at the latest) and ENJOY this life.

 

[LearningSlowly]

^^^i want to get this guy banned. Annoying spam.

To answer your question, the reason your friends hug girls is because they open their arms so girls have to come hug them. The reason they go to parties is because they go with a positive state of mind and don't expect any specific outcome (girls may pick up on it if you're just trying to get laid by anyone).

My best advice is to be bold. Feel secure in yourself and happy, and others will begin to notice. When you make mistakes, smile and don't beat yourself up. The change in attitude will create a change in reality.

 

[cali4nialove]

^^^i want to get this guy banned. Annoying spam.

To answer your question, the reason your friends hug girls is because they open their arms so girls have to come hug them. The reason they go to parties is because they go with a positive state of mind and don't expect any specific outcome (girls may pick up on it if you're just trying to get laid by anyone).

My best advice is to be bold. Feel secure in yourself and happy, and others will begin to notice. When you make mistakes, smile and don't beat yourself up. The change in attitude will create a change in reality.

Thanks man. I can tell that I fake confidence and happiness with myself when around people...but recently, I can also tell that people have started to notice.

 

[goundra]

yeah, everything that's contrary to your SO WONDERFUL world is "spam", aint it, you little punk? Well I got a newsflash for you. The way most guys go at this crap is what is ruining women. Women only have power over men because men GIVE it to them! Learn to ignore them until you get things set up YOUR way, or you will regret it, severely and probably to the end of your days.

 

[FinalWay]

Thanks man. I can tell that I fake confidence and happiness with myself when around people...but recently, I can also tell that people have started to notice.

You just gave yourself your answer...find what makes you happy, confident, passionate! Better yourself for yourself and the rest will follow!

 

[apocolipto]

PM sent.

 

[nroug7]

If you go to a party/event, go to hang out with friends. The rest will follow naturally.