"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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I Am A Girl?

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I noticed this woman I met recently and when I am talking to her she is always saying stuff like "I am a girl who eats alot" NO she is not fat! anyway she is always saying "I am a girl" who does this or that. I thought I read in the DJ bible once something about woman doing this but can not remember what it said. So what is with all this I am a girl ****?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Who cares is more the point?

But for sh!ts and giggles here you go.



"I am a girl who (insert random junk)"

=

"I'm original , independant and one of a kind...........really I am "


In other words you can probably look forward to yawning alot and or acting surprised (in small doses obviously) at her "uniqueness".
 

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Originally posted by ( . )( . )
In other words you can probably look forward to yawning alot and or acting surprised (in small doses obviously) at her "uniqueness".

That comment was humorous, mean, and... well.... true haha.
 

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associative qualification

by prefacing all of her attributes with some nonsense like, "I am a girl who... likes to run," she achieves a certain distancing in her characterization. The effect is twofold: firstly, what she says is first given validation because she's putting herself into a group, one of a particular type of girl. The implication is that there are other girls who have this type of behaviour, and she's not weird or strange in this manner. Secondly, it's distancing; she's using the general in order to convey her personality.

You can take advantage of this. Understand that this odd speech habit may be linked to some self-conscious thing. There's a reason people subtly validate themselves like that. Maybe she's feeling slightly uncomfortable. Try to push her away from talking like that, find a clever retort to point it out, like "I'm a girl who talks reflexively" (too nerdy, I know, but you're clever, figure something else out). But basically, whatever she says that's prefaced by the "I'm a girl" part, is something related to an insecurity. Just deal with it like you would any other insecurity in a girl; point it out, make light hearted jokes, etc.

hope this helped. best of luck. cheers.
 
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