"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I Am A Bitter Mothu*ucka!!! Its Gonna Take A While

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pls read story to answer ending question:
I went to AC this weekend
I sat at the bar having a really nice time with my buddy.

So there is girl after girl approaching our little lions area. So my buddy would open one after another. going pretty good so far.. girls are coming back etc...

BUT...

for some reason I'm being an arrogant f*ckin pr*ick to these girls! Ruining set after set. My buddy is getting super pissed (& so he should!!) Im being a horrible wingman

heres 1 of many examples:
3 super hotties come over. 2 blonds & a brunette. chick pulls the chair from behind me & rams it in between me & her friends. I turn around & say "umm hello to you too! That WAS my chair but you can have it."
my friend says(fed up at this point) "dont mind him he's drunk."
Her b*tch friend says "no one talks to my girl like that!"
I look at my buddy & say "They dont deserve it. Dont defend me!"

So in an attempt to regain some composure I engage hottie #1 who took my chair..she was so freakin beautiful..a serious HB10. I shouldve been nice. Anyway I'm engaging her. Tells me where shes from, what she does for a living, she asks me q's about myself...I'm about to hold her hand & I hear, "Let's go" ...& she gets wisked away from her B*TCH friend! then we see 3 guys take em away & out of the bar in like 5 min.lol ...thats usually me taking the girls out of the bar!

Now my buddy wants to kill me. oh well, I dont seem to even care!!! So my friend asks me if I'm a closeted homo. LOL

Here's my question for you guys.

I was in a LTR that was TOXIC... Do you guys feel after this type of relationship someone, like myself, can grow resentful of most women?
& if so ..have any of you ever felt this?
Is there a timeline of how long it takes to go away?

BTW I am seeking prof help, I'm working out like crazy & I'm working on my inner game...so don't think I'm just sitting around like a closeted homo haha

thx in advance for any replies
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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Darth_Qurashi

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yea just change your attitude. It's all up to you man, it's in your head.

I think the timeline is different for everyone, and it's pretty much just based on when you finally get over it and realize that u need to start enjoying the present, and be happy with what you have now.

Just imagine you're having the best day of your life and you're in a total good mood or something lol i duno, thas wat I do.
 

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It looks like you're prefer failing on your own terms: you act like a douche as some sort of preemptive strike. Probably less hurtful for your ego in the short run that getting your hopes up with a beautiful girl for any period of time and get disappointed further down the line.

Of course, it hurts you like crazy in the long-run. Damn even your friendships suffer when you display such behaviour.

Great that you're looking to fix this thing.

Remember to not take it out on girl because of one bitter break-up. Although, we like to insist on female similarities around here, remember every girl is a different person and more importantly not your ex. You may want to get over that nasty break up before your inner game is operationnal again.

All the best bro.
 
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