"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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"I am a big girl"

MOZIS

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Hey guys so this seriously HB10 I saw on m hit her up and we've had a conversation. I have no clue what to respond to the last thing she said, me and her have no backstory. Just a girl in my city I saw on facebook. this was our convo

me:u can do a better profile pic then that.
her:lol you dont like it?
me:nnnaaaw i think u can do better
her:how so?
me:(being a dousche i now realize)well im guessing your a big girl and wont take a diss. are you a big girl?;p you have nice eyes, but ya lips look like thin pencil lines. stick em out a lil bit. Damn girl I could watch avatar on ya 4head ;p
her:i am a big girl, which is why i have more class than making fun of peoples physical features.

wtf do i say to that? I feel like a douschhhhhe
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Commandante

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Oh guys, I really hate repeating Rollo Tomassi, but if he is tired of reposting his wise words, I will do. But long story short:

FORGET

ABOUT

THE

FVCKIN´

FAKEBOOK

NOW

!

Rollo Tomassi said:
In POOK's inimitable words, Rejection is better than Regret.

I was recently sifting through some of my past posts using the search feature of this forum when it hit me; over 90% of what I advocate here can be reduced to overcoming a fear of rejection. 90% of the dillemas AFCs and rAFCs find themselves in, and a majority of men's concerns, with the opposite sex find their roots in the methods and means they use to reduce their exposure to female rejection. These are buffers meant to reduce the potential for this rejection of intimacy. Men of course aren't the only ones who use buffers - women have their share as well - but I think it would be much more productive for guys to recognize this propensity in themselves and see the methods they use, and often ego-invest in their personal psychologies, to buffer themselves against rejection.

Virtually every common problem guys come to this site for help with finds it's basis in these buffers.

MySpace & Online Dating - This one should be fairly obvious for the same reasons as above - Online dating is perhaps the best buffer ever conceived. In fact it's so effective that businesses can be built upon the common insecurities and fear of rejection of both sexes.
read the whole post here
 

katatonia

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MOZIS said:
me:(being a dousche i now realize)well im guessing your a big girl and wont take a diss. are you a big girl?;p you have nice eyes, but ya lips look like thin pencil lines. stick em out a lil bit. Damn girl I could watch avatar on ya 4head ;p
her:i am a big girl, which is why i have more class than making fun of peoples physical features.

wtf do i say to that? I feel like a douschhhhhe
ROFL nice attempt at a 'neg' there, you just straight up insulted her.

It wasn't exactly a suave move by any means but girls love assh0les anyway so I guess you could get away with it if you acted like it was nothing and just continued the conversation with C&F.
 

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HAHAHA you made me laugh good job bro. if shes hb10 then how is she a fat ***** and how could you watch avatar on her "4head?" if shes a fat ***** then who the **** cares move on
 

Kal

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He didn't say she was fat, he asked her if she was a "big girl" as in grown up. Which is kind of a lame way to tease her. And that forehead thing was kind of insulting, how big was her forehead anyway?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Iceberg

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MOZIS said:
can I get some help on what to say?
You could play it off real smooth like...Invite her over to your place, set up a projection screen and watch Avatar on her forehead.
 

Jhcl4000

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I'd say leave her alone. I'd also say don't use neg hits at all until you know to do it properly, because you may (like in your case) come off as straight up insulting.
 

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The best way to offend someone is to start as sentence with "I dont mean any disrespect but" or "No offense but" or anything of the sort. It puts them on the defensive IMMEDIATELY. Never EVER use that phrase again. In my opinion you screwed yourself up here. You can try apologizing or giving her a good compliment, or completely change the subject and spit some of your best game so that she completely forgets about all this.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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