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Pureafc

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I am 23 year guy from Singapore who has absolutely no luck with women at all and still a hopeless virgin who doesn't get any sex. I have been approaching a lot of women. Always manage to get them out and chat , make them laugh but i seriously can't bring things up to a sexual level. I totally suck , it is really really frustating that i am like wanting to give up and ignore all the women in life. I have been putting so much effort every now and then,but it fails. I always lead, be dominant and gave my best displaying alpha male qualiites, but i don't get even a single sex. I don't know what's wrong with me, I am good looking but can 't escalate things to a sexual level. I have a feeling every time women is looking at me as a friend and not as a sexual partner. All the effort i have been putting is a complete waste of time and money ( i don't splurge on women, it is just some simple meals and drinks,I mean as a DJ you still have to spend a little bit of money from time to time right? I don't buy them gifts or anything else ). Seriously i need help, women can be such a mental pain to my mind that i don't regard them as human beings. Why can't they be more just like guys? Why make it so difficult ? I am just not born a natural. I surrender , i prefer going back to my comfort zone. I am sorry for venting my sexual frustrations and admit i am a loser. I hope you guys can help me out on this, why am i making it so difficult for myself? how can i proceed and escalate? What kind of sexual innuendos must i have to drop? Hinting? whatever....it is to solve my problem!:mad:
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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sherineo

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hmm...

see I'm 21 (n a virgin)...and few days back I also thinking on the same lines...but it's periodic (it goes away..and we rise again)

Let me tell you something...95% of men in this world feel that they suck with women (once in a while...) but how you deal with this feelin decides who you are...

So you are not abnormal...just one of those 95% men.

Now the term AFC - remeber what the letter 'F' stands for - Frustrated...that's what you are right now.

Women only exist so that human can procreate...produce kids. (not meant in a sexist way)

Everybody is not a natural...and being a natural is just a mental state.

One more thing, being good with women is an objective thing - 0 or 1. Either you are good or you are not. Either you get any or not.

You might die a virgin (extreme statement...I know) ---- but there are so many people in this world who die without food or money...in extreme poverty...try slums in Africa or India.

Life is not fair...and that's what makes it exciting.

Whenever you feel like this again. Remeber the mantra -
"Stay Low. Go Slow. Suffer" but don't leave the field.

Read Esther Villar's - "The Manipulated Man"

Peace.
 
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Hmm,I relate. Although I am not a virgin,it's been a long time.

I wouldn't say I have been a complete failure,although, my effort level hasn't been the best either. This is probably due to a number of things.

"Women only exist so that human can procreate...produce kids. (not meant in a sexist way)" Yeah,tell that to the feminists. I can only imagine the long,spewing response one of them would produce.

The manipulate man,what's that about exactly? How guys are and can be more controlled by there own lusts,thus allowing women to walk all over them?
 
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HEy bro, I totally understand where you are coming from. I am by no means getting sex every week or so and sometimes it can go for months without it, but the thing that makes me different is that I have other things in my life to occupy my physical and mental states.
Give yourself some props for actually opening women; its the hardest part for most guys including myself. But you should never have to escalate or think about the steps with women, always trust what your body is saying and listen to your instincts. If you are thinking if you should escalate or this and that, you are not being present with the girl you are with and that blows all your chances with her. Think about a convo you had with someone and it seemed like he was thinking about other things, well it just sucks to talk to someone like that. So go out there and stop worrying about steps and start enjoying the company of women. And if you are asking yourself if you should kiss her, the answer is yes and it should have been done 10 min ago, if you want to hold her hand just grab it, and if she responds negatively then make it not a big deal.

Biggest mistake guys make is that they are so worried about the steps to take, but dating and love is not predictable; it is very spontaneous and thats what love stories are made from.
 
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the manipulated man can be downloaded free if you search for it on google ..it's the second or third search item (PDF)...
 
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Just curious...Do girls in Singapore sleep around as much as American girls? Is it common to even have sex before marriage?


I'm not trying to promote stereotypes, but most of the women from east asian countries I met in college seemed very socially conservative. I met one woman who was in her fifties and married (she was the wife of a college professor) who told me that when she was in university, she was afraid to sit next to male students because she honestly believed that she could become pregnant that way.
 
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CapedCrusader08 said:
Hmm,I relate. Although I am not a virgin,it's been a long time.

I wouldn't say I have been a complete failure,although, my effort level hasn't been the best either. This is probably due to a number of things.

"Women only exist so that human can procreate...produce kids. (not meant in a sexist way)" Yeah,tell that to the feminists. I can only imagine the long,spewing response one of them would produce.

The manipulate man,what's that about exactly? How guys are and can be more controlled by there own lusts,thus allowing women to walk all over them?
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You should move out of your rich parents house and stop having them pay for everything.
 
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