I already know what I'm going to do so this thread is merely a soundboard for your thoughts and my own and perhaps some mild entertainment for some of you.
There's a girl (isn't that how these threads always go?
) that is a friend of a friend who I've slept with (kinda. see: performance anxiety) and I'm thinking to make a go of it and ask her out on a date.
Seeing we've slept with each other I know there's sexual attraction there which is cool, I know what I've got and I know what she brings to the party so to speak.
I'm going to start just with a coffee, maybe get her back round mine for a 'movie' after I don't know. I'm super busy with work right now so I'll play it by ear.
In terms of dating it's been quite some time for me so there's nerves there and apprehension in asking this girl for a drink. I've acknowledged the fear of rejection that I have to deal with if I'm to do this so it's about getting past that.
Regardless one of the key reasons in doing this is I don't know 100% where I stand with this girl but at least this should hopefully give me a better idea.
If she says no, it's no. My ego and pride will take a knock as well as my confidence for a while but I'll get past it and look out for other girls.
If she says yes then I gotta get my head back in the dating game, avoid and AFC slip ups and just enjoy it whilst it's ongoing and take it date by date.
And that's all I want from this right now, an idea of where to take this if anywhere.
Hell, here I am putting the pressure on myself to perform (in person and when it came to it in the bedroom) when the reality is this girl might not be relationship material.
So I need to internalise that idea and take it to heart. I AM a catch. I'm not perfect, I screwed up the first time and will aim to achieve more second time round but if I don't then I will learn from it yet again and find someone else.
There's a girl (isn't that how these threads always go?
) that is a friend of a friend who I've slept with (kinda. see: performance anxiety) and I'm thinking to make a go of it and ask her out on a date.Seeing we've slept with each other I know there's sexual attraction there which is cool, I know what I've got and I know what she brings to the party so to speak.
I'm going to start just with a coffee, maybe get her back round mine for a 'movie' after I don't know. I'm super busy with work right now so I'll play it by ear.
In terms of dating it's been quite some time for me so there's nerves there and apprehension in asking this girl for a drink. I've acknowledged the fear of rejection that I have to deal with if I'm to do this so it's about getting past that.
Regardless one of the key reasons in doing this is I don't know 100% where I stand with this girl but at least this should hopefully give me a better idea.
If she says no, it's no. My ego and pride will take a knock as well as my confidence for a while but I'll get past it and look out for other girls.
If she says yes then I gotta get my head back in the dating game, avoid and AFC slip ups and just enjoy it whilst it's ongoing and take it date by date.
And that's all I want from this right now, an idea of where to take this if anywhere.
Hell, here I am putting the pressure on myself to perform (in person and when it came to it in the bedroom) when the reality is this girl might not be relationship material.
So I need to internalise that idea and take it to heart. I AM a catch. I'm not perfect, I screwed up the first time and will aim to achieve more second time round but if I don't then I will learn from it yet again and find someone else.