Well, you may be hustling other numbers, but something went wrong with that last one, and you wouldn't want to go through new girls and unintentionally repeat old mistakes, true?
One of the pitfalls on this forum, as I see it, is the tendency for some guys to thump their chests and say "it's the chick that is at fault" and the man is always smelling like flowers. I think more realistic is to figure it out what role everyone played.
I mean when I read something like, "we agreed it wasn't a date", I have to think how did that really go down. It can't be that both of you came up with that thought at the exact same instant, so someone said it first, and then the other person agreed to it. So someone framed that dinner & drinks as "just friends". But wait...
Prior to that, when you guys met, there was making out involved! Well, that's not what friends do. So she wasn't eyeing you just as a friend then. But wait...
"Despite what we called it, it was still a traditional date. We hugged"... but it wasn't a traditional date, because it was agreed that it wasn't a date. Now that's being contradictory! Not only that, but "hugging" is not part of a traditional date. But a good night kiss is. But wait! There was kissing the next week!
Well, I'm betting it was the girl who first said it wasn't a date (and odds are she told you that right after she finished her last bite of dessert), and to that you agreed. And then she turns around and is kissing you the next week, and when you have inconsistent behavior like that from a woman, you have a woman with low interest, or a nut job. If she's not crazy, then I'd say on that dinner date, she lost a measure of interest. So that's where I would look back to figure out why it went south, in order to not let history repeat itself again.
If you can be objective and not just allege it's all because she's *****y.
One of the pitfalls on this forum, as I see it, is the tendency for some guys to thump their chests and say "it's the chick that is at fault" and the man is always smelling like flowers. I think more realistic is to figure it out what role everyone played.
I mean when I read something like, "we agreed it wasn't a date", I have to think how did that really go down. It can't be that both of you came up with that thought at the exact same instant, so someone said it first, and then the other person agreed to it. So someone framed that dinner & drinks as "just friends". But wait...
Prior to that, when you guys met, there was making out involved! Well, that's not what friends do. So she wasn't eyeing you just as a friend then. But wait...
"Despite what we called it, it was still a traditional date. We hugged"... but it wasn't a traditional date, because it was agreed that it wasn't a date. Now that's being contradictory! Not only that, but "hugging" is not part of a traditional date. But a good night kiss is. But wait! There was kissing the next week!
Well, I'm betting it was the girl who first said it wasn't a date (and odds are she told you that right after she finished her last bite of dessert), and to that you agreed. And then she turns around and is kissing you the next week, and when you have inconsistent behavior like that from a woman, you have a woman with low interest, or a nut job. If she's not crazy, then I'd say on that dinner date, she lost a measure of interest. So that's where I would look back to figure out why it went south, in order to not let history repeat itself again.
If you can be objective and not just allege it's all because she's *****y.
