Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I officially declare this guy to be a troll. He gave it away with the puke post. Let's stop feeding him.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
i accidentally peed on her during bj? ADVICE
- Thread starter Forgottenmemories
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Forgottenmemories said:
You're not an "AFC" you're an AFPee. Change username to: Golden Showers, Mellow Yellow, TimmyTinkler or Mr.Plastic Bedsheets.
Forgottenmemories
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i am not a troll. the puke post? that was an just an idea that i was considering to tell this girl to make it seem like peeing on her wasnt that big of a deal.Atom Smasher said:
i came on these forums seeking advice, because this is what these forums are. for people to give and receive advice.
If you are not going to give me advice, then fine. I dont care. Leave. If you think that this sort of situation is IMPOSSIBLE to happen, that anybody who this has happened to is trolling, then you are not very intelligent and i wouldnt want your advice in the first place. but DONT discourage others who originally were going to give me advice, to not give me advice. because i need it. Unfortunately, this HAS happened to me.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
I can't leave. I'm a mod...
OK, I get it.. You're young and alarmed about what happened.
Some pointers:
1) You were in a hot sauna and your bladder was relaxed. Very understandable.
2) Lots of women pee when having sex. Look it up. Why should a man be penalized for the same? Another example of the double-standard.
3) You already know that all that apologizing was not helpful... But here is why: Women take all their cues from outside of themselves, like children. She saw that you were freaked out about it, so being a woman, she fed off your energy and freaked out further. In a sense you "gave her permission". It's just like a kid, when he falls down he will look at his parents to see whether he should freak out or brush it off. When you want to examine how women think, just look at children. They are one and the same.
4) This is most important: You need to take the frame back NOW. You need to become unaffected by it. You were in a sauna. The environment caused you to lose control of the bladder. Big deal. You're human, and as I said, MANY women do this. Your attitude toward her should be "Deal with it or go away". No more apologies, no more feeling bad about it. She is trying to shame you (even if subconsciously) and this is not acceptable. She is simply too young and too immature to understand.
5) The puke story is what really threw me for a loop. It's never a good idea to implant movies of even more disgusting things in a woman's mind. Whatever you plant in a woman's mind becomes her reality. She is largely incapable of differentiating fact from fantasy. That's what men do... they are the rational rock that they need in order to maintain some kind of foothold on reality. So YOU need to define reality and what your standards are. Women follow along with that.
When I speak to women, I am always careful to implant nice images into their imaginations. I do it very subtly with the words and phrases I use. I just paint some unicorns and rainbows and let her fall in love with me all on her own. That takes some skilz that come later in life as you gain experience. I'm talking about deep nuance with language here.
So for now, set your standard, that you will not take abuse or ridicule for an accident. You are a young man who is able to define his own reality. This is an opportunity to step up to the plate and get to the next level.
We all have had emarrassing experiences, and this just happens to be yours. I guarantee that somewhere in her life she has peed and probably crapped in her pants by accident. A girl of substance and value wouldn't have reacted the way she did, especially after you apologized.
She is beneath you. She has demonstrated this. Should she still be welcome as a guest in your world? Think about that.
OK, I get it.. You're young and alarmed about what happened.
Some pointers:
1) You were in a hot sauna and your bladder was relaxed. Very understandable.
2) Lots of women pee when having sex. Look it up. Why should a man be penalized for the same? Another example of the double-standard.
3) You already know that all that apologizing was not helpful... But here is why: Women take all their cues from outside of themselves, like children. She saw that you were freaked out about it, so being a woman, she fed off your energy and freaked out further. In a sense you "gave her permission". It's just like a kid, when he falls down he will look at his parents to see whether he should freak out or brush it off. When you want to examine how women think, just look at children. They are one and the same.
4) This is most important: You need to take the frame back NOW. You need to become unaffected by it. You were in a sauna. The environment caused you to lose control of the bladder. Big deal. You're human, and as I said, MANY women do this. Your attitude toward her should be "Deal with it or go away". No more apologies, no more feeling bad about it. She is trying to shame you (even if subconsciously) and this is not acceptable. She is simply too young and too immature to understand.
5) The puke story is what really threw me for a loop. It's never a good idea to implant movies of even more disgusting things in a woman's mind. Whatever you plant in a woman's mind becomes her reality. She is largely incapable of differentiating fact from fantasy. That's what men do... they are the rational rock that they need in order to maintain some kind of foothold on reality. So YOU need to define reality and what your standards are. Women follow along with that.
When I speak to women, I am always careful to implant nice images into their imaginations. I do it very subtly with the words and phrases I use. I just paint some unicorns and rainbows and let her fall in love with me all on her own. That takes some skilz that come later in life as you gain experience. I'm talking about deep nuance with language here.
So for now, set your standard, that you will not take abuse or ridicule for an accident. You are a young man who is able to define his own reality. This is an opportunity to step up to the plate and get to the next level.
We all have had emarrassing experiences, and this just happens to be yours. I guarantee that somewhere in her life she has peed and probably crapped in her pants by accident. A girl of substance and value wouldn't have reacted the way she did, especially after you apologized.
She is beneath you. She has demonstrated this. Should she still be welcome as a guest in your world? Think about that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Naughty Ninja
Banned
Forgottenmemories said:
Ask her if she's patriotic. Then tell her your uncle was stationed at Gitmo and his stories of waterboarding had you acting out uncontrollably in the heat of the moment.