"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I absolutely self destructed on this girl

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Suvian

You are back in the game. She seems nice.

The only advice that I would have is to remain yourself when interacting with her. Just don't lay everything out on the table in the future as you did in the past. You don't want to reveal too much about yourself to her. Maintain some mystery. It'll keep her interested. Go forward and see what happens. Try to isolate her at some point where it's one on one.

Sorry about your father. Been there.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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your father has just passed away and all you can think about is this girl??

man fck this girl shes nothing but a spec of dust in your life
 

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your father has just passed away and all you can think about is this girl??

man fck this girl shes nothing but a spec of dust in your life
 

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5string said:
Suvian

You are back in the game. She seems nice.

The only advice that I would have is to remain yourself when interacting with her. Just don't lay everything out on the table in the future as you did in the past. You don't want to reveal too much about yourself to her. Maintain some mystery. It'll keep her interested. Go forward and see what happens. Try to isolate her at some point where it's one on one.

Sorry about your father. Been there.
The nice ones are the girls that will rip out your heart. Be careful mate.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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:) Hey, I am sorry I have not written you back from your last email :) Don't apologize for asking that! It didn’t offend me in any way at all & you didn’t put me on the spot I am glad that you wrote to me about your dad & that we were able to talk about all of that stuff. It's nice to think of memories of him. & I’m glad that you could share things about your dad as well. I still mean it that u can talk to me anytime about it all. It is hard to talk about certain things, but it helps to organize your mind a little with the whole dealing with it process. I have to get back to work but please feel to write me about anything anytime & I know u don’t drink but if you ever want to come out with me & my friends to play some pool...etc. that'd be fun :) Talk to you soon./QUOTE]


that is ****ing cold blooded. lol I had to read it twice to realize she rejected him.


Look. Let this be a lesson to everyone, this is all your fault. This is why, it pays to be hoenst about your intentions. There was no way possible this was going to work for two reasons. You came to her, under false pretenses. You used her dead dad as an "in". Either 1. she was going to see through your ploy and find it deplorable or 2. she was going to be shocked that you sent from talking about dead dad's to wanting to hook up. It doesn't add up.

You think she is going to want to **** you because of your mad writing skills? A man that has time to write that much on facebook is a man with no life.

When you meet a woman, be open and upfront about EXACTLY what you want. The turth is, you did not.. i'm ont going to say that you don't care about her father, but that's not why you spoke to her. She is the "apple of your eye". Why not just go up to her and say hey look.. I saw you over there and you are just so gorgeous, I had to come over here and say hi and introduce myself. That would have gotten you 100x further than what you did. Either you end up not wasting time on her and you move on, or she knows from jump street, why you are talking to her and if she keeps talking to you she is acknowledging that she is okay with that.
 
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