I’m going to tell my GF. Do you think it’s the right thing to do?

[Sgthaytham]

My brother’s ex openly admitted to liking me the other day.

I told her that I was flattered but that I was seeing someone who I really like, and, as a matter of fact, I am falling for.

I’m going to tell my GF in person what happened.

Do you think it’s a good idea?

 

[Billtx49]

I’m going to tell my GF in person what happened.

Do you think it’s a good idea?

Only if you want to try to build competitive anxiety, otherwise it’s a No.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Only if you want to build competitive anxiety, otherwise it’s a No.

I don’t, but wont things get worse if i dont and my GF finds out?

 

[marmel75]

You must be really inexperienced to even ask this question. This stuff happens all the time. So what?

The only reason i could possibly see to even tell her is if you think you'll go full on beta AFC if she finds out and says something about it, which is a distinct possibility based on some of your posts(not trying to insult you OP, just keeping it real).

 

[Billtx49]

I don’t, but wont things get worse if i dont and my GF finds out?

No, it’s a better way of message delivery if she finds out by herself that other females desire you…

 

[flowtheory]

Don’t do it. It’s just going to create unnessecary drama and nothing positive. I see you want to be open and forthcoming; which i can respect.
However, people are insecure and by omitting some things, it doesn’t create any harm. In dating and relationships there can’t be 100 percent transparency, in theory it’s a nice thought, but in reality it’s not so smooth.
Let the things you tell your girlfriend lift her up and elevate her, not stir up her emotions. Let what happens between you two just involve you two, not some other woman or man. It will push you further apart rather than bring you closer and I’m assuming this is your master objective with every thing you do with you partner.

When I was open in the past with my long term girlfriends about who found me attractive or that stuff, it just put them on edge in the future and made them act weird; closed off. Women are really insecure. This isn’t going to embellish you if you choose to tell her.

 

[flowtheory]

I don’t, but wont things get worse if i dont and my GF finds out?

Then she finds out. She can’t get mad at you, because you have done nothing wrong. If she was mad it would have more to do with how she feels about her self, not you.
You told told the girl who finds you attractive your truth. If your girl did happen to get mad it would simply be competition anxiety on her part, and then you would just give space and let her work through that while not letting it affect you.

 

[MrJack]

My brother’s ex openly admitted to liking me the other day.

I told her that I was flattered but that I was seeing someone who I really like, and, as a matter of fact, I am falling for.

I’m going to tell my GF in person what happened.

Do you think it’s a good idea?

It’s all already been said but yea, no point in saying anything to her. What would that accomplish?

She would just think you are trying to make her jealous or something for no reason.

As @billtx49 said, if she finds this out by herself it will just reinforce the idea that you’re a catch and that other women find you attractive/like you.

It also keeps you in the clear because you didn’t do anything wrong.

Ask yourself this: If you found out from some mutual friend that some dude likes your GF are you going to get mad at HER? If so you got some logic to reflect on with yourself

 

[Von]

You want to create competition with your brother?

Your brother will receive this as a threat... from you.

Best scenario, say nothing. In this cases, it better to let it pass and ignore it even happened cause it will create undesired anxiety/competition/doubt.

Who knows why she is "an ex" ? She's an ex for a reason!

Have you also considered that the "ex" wants to create drama and revenge?

Imagine your brother being like... dude why you even talk to my ex... are you the guy she cheated me on?

Oh! You have a GF... don't tell her... unnecessary competition. Your GF might view it has a treat, especially since she's an ex.. And a bro ex

 

[MatureDJ]

This will not end well. Just forget about it.

 

[ohrein]

She would just think you are trying to make her jealous or something for no reason.

This is the crux of it. Competition anxiety and dread should be covertly manifested by your interactions, never overtly communicated.

 

[Trump]

My brother’s ex openly admitted to liking me the other day.

I told her that I was flattered but that I was seeing someone who I really like, and, as a matter of fact, I am falling for.

I’m going to tell my GF in person what happened.

Do you think it’s a good idea?

You might want to tell your brother the person who was having sex with him on a regular basis, knows his deepest darkest secrets and who he fell in love with, now wants to have sex with you.

 

[Desdinova]

My brother’s ex openly admitted to liking me the other day.
I’m going to tell my GF in person what happened.

It all depends on how you tell your GF and for what purpose. If you're doing it to create emotional fluctuation, then that's not necessarily a bad thing. If you're going to tell her, you need to be passive about it.

"The craziest 5hit happened the other day.... My brother's ex was hitting on me! How could anybody even think I'd do that to him???"

That would be acceptable. It will help drive home the point that other women are interested in you and that you stand by your values. After you state it like that, don't dwell on it. That's her job.

 

[marmel75]

My brother’s ex openly admitted to liking me the other day.

I told her that I was flattered but that I was seeing someone who I really like, and, as a matter of fact, I am falling for.

I’m going to tell my GF in person what happened.

Do you think it’s a good idea?

Bro no offense but I would bet you fall for any woman that will have sex with you.

 

[Sgthaytham]

Bro no offense but I would bet you fall for any woman that will have sex with you.

No, I don’t.

I couldn’t care less what you think.

 

[Murk]

You're the kind of guy to have a drunken kiss with a chick then break down and confess all to the GF who inevitably leaves you.

Seen it before first hand. You guys are not quite beta, but not far off.

The notion to "confess" "be transparent" or "guiltless" etc is highly feminine and emotional.