"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I´m tired

IndianaJoneS

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Hi guys!

One of my big problems is that I get really fast tired (often at 2-3 pm) and need to sleep. It really pisses me off. I´m a sportsman doing some endurance excercises (like swimming / jogging), going to the gym and playing table tennis. There are often little problems for me getting enough sleep because when I should get sleepy I simply get awake ...

But even at days when I have 7-8 hours of sleep, I get tired at noon. Lunch simply knocks me out, I´m often so sleepy that I really have to fight to stay concentrated. I´m now jogging every day in the morning for about 30 mins. (slow - average tempo just to get awake).

Any suggestions / tips, or do I simply have to accept it ?

greetings,

Indiana
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I would go see a doctor as soon as you can because this could actually be something serious. A doctor can run some blood tests on you and determine what is the problem. It could be as simple as lack of certain vitamins such as b12. On the other hand, the problem could be depression, anemia, thyroid problems or Epstein-Barr virus. No one on this board (unless they are a PA or doc) is qualified to give you medical advice. (I am only qualified to give Military personnel medical advice).
 

IndianaJoneS

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hey, thanks for your reply !

I already visited a doctor 3 years ago and he ran some blood tests and asked me some questions, he came to the conclusion that everything is alright. I will visit another doctor...

depression ? hmm .. 2 - 3 month ago I would have said yes, but in the moment I feel simply ok, I really work at my attitude ... yes deep inside maybe there is some kind of "depression with girls", but I want to get over it by myself, I could visit a psychiatrist and start crying "hey dr. I´m so sad about not having a girl" or such ****, but I simply won´t do it. I´m using many ideas of Nathaniel Branden´s "the 6 pillars of self esteem" - good book.

greetings and thanks in advance,

Indiana
 

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I used to have this problem big time. 2:00 would roll around at work and I'm ready to land face first into my keyboard. It seems my change in diet really helped me out. I got rid of the pasta for lunch and I feel so much better throughout the entire day. I also cut out all the fvcking potato chips and pop. All that 5hit combined with a sit down job wasn't doing a damn thing for me.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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IndianaJoneS

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I don´t feed myself very well. Often I eat fastfood, pizza, sweets, chips etc. I´ll try more vegetables and fruits.

I drink a plenty amount of coffee at days (maybe around 5-6 cups). Could this be related to my problem ? I´ve tried to stop drinking coffee, but it´s really difficult for me.

Any ideas ?

greetings,

Indiana
 

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Originally posted by IndianaJoneS
I don´t feed myself very well. Often I eat fastfood, pizza, sweets, chips etc... I drink a plenty amount of coffee a day... maybe around 5-6 cups. Could this be related to my problem ?
And you wonder why your body hates you? Good god, please tell me that the last question was meant to be rhetorical. Your body is going to go through withdrawals, just as it would if you were a constant cigarette smoker, but after it's all over and done, and you like water (or hell, even adderall) instead of coffee, just see how things have changed!
 

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Originally posted by IndianaJoneS
I don´t feed myself very well. Often I eat fastfood, pizza, sweets, chips etc. I´ll try more vegetables and fruits.

I drink a plenty amount of coffee at days (maybe around 5-6 cups). Could this be related to my problem ? I´ve tried to stop drinking coffee, but it´s really difficult for me.

Any ideas ?

greetings,

Indiana
I think you need to detox your body. Step 1 is to drink as much water as possible. Does you place of work have a water cooler? Try to drink at least a gallon a day. That sounds like a crazy amount, but you'll feel better. When your p1ss comes out crystal clear, you'll feel like a well-oiled Ferrari. Well, maybe :)
 

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I would consider your caffeine intake one of, if not the primary cause of your tiredness. Caffeine is a stimulant that gives your body a "false" energy boost and can play with your sleep pattern and your mind and body's natural craving for rest.

As others have said, try drinking lots of water (add a touch of cordial if you don't like it plain) and detoxing. It makes an amazing difference. Maybe try drinking tea (preferably green tea) as a substitute for coffee.

And go easy on the junk food, especially anything fatty, as that can cause heavy fatigue.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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IndianaJoneS

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It seems, I´m victim of a false assumption. My weight is 76 kg, I´m 185 cm tall, my body is really in nice shape, sixpack etc. I thought that there´s everything ok with my health because of my sportsmanship (I train ALOT).

OK, no time to cry ...

Could you tell me a good basic feeding plan thats compatible to much sports ? I´ve read some books but there are often conflicting statements that confused me.

Another 'problem' I´d like to get rid of is my very oily face. I wash it at least 2 times a day with a special cream - soap. Could this even be related to my feeding ?

Any suggestions ?

greetings and much thanks,

Indiana

P.S. : going into the basement getting 5 bottles of water ;)
 

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I have the same problem. Around 2-3pm I would get pretty sleepy. Actually I get sleep all the time. I try and eat 6 small meals a day, usually I'd be able to get in 3 meals, but I still get sleepy. I get 8 hours of sleep a day and I still get sleepy.
I should probably check the doctor too.
 

IndianaJoneS

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ok, first 2 days, yesterday, I managed 3 liters of minrealwater, today 4. I need to go to toilet every half an hour, but who cares ...

How long should this "drowning diet" take to show first effects ?

greetings,

Indiana
 
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