"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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IndianaJoneS

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Often, when I read the cool articles of this site, I have to fight with contradictions like "be cool to the girl, control you emotions" vs "just be a man, do what you WANT", you get what I mean ? I´m single right now and have been for a long time. I have to admit that I´m still confused.

At the moment I really try to concentrate on myself but sometimes I fear I´ll end up as an egoistic bastard alone.

I AM CONFUSED !

I´m searching for the ultimate solution somehow, I think. Does it exist ?

Is it : "Just let go" ?

greetings and have a nice day,

Indiana
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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ApocalypseCow2

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There are tons of contradictions on this site. That's life. It's up to you to gather all the information and make a plan that works for you.
 
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The thing is they seem like contradictions, but they are not. That's why you have to put it into practice in real life before you genuinely understand when to be a bad ass and when to be a sweet guy and when to drop them and when to take them.
 
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I believe it's all about finding a balance. Sometimes you'll have to be DA MAN, and other times you'll need to do something sweet for a girl and show your emotions to her.

You should probably be more indifferent when u have just met a girl, to show her u're not desperate about her. But if u guys create some chemistry and u become closer later on, then maybe u can gradually start showing your emotions to her.

You need to adapt to the situation that's presented to you and find when it's best to show your sensitive side and when it's best not to. This will make u a bit more unpredictable, and girls like that!:)
 
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experiment home boy. you say you dont know how to act, be cool, be sweet, your confused.

go date a few woman and EXPERIMENT, act cool, be sweet, be aloof, be smooth, be cheesy or whatever.

you need to find what works for you and the only way to do that is to try different things.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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IndianaJoneS

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yes, you are right. I´ve written this post in a bad mood. Today, I see things more clearly, like when talking to these 2 *****es, who refused to do smalltalk and just hanging around them and acting as I was part of their group ;)

... taking action directly leads out of depression ...
 
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