hypothetical question, please discuss

[jungleman pete]

please discuss

Hi everyone. Congratulations on such a awesome discussion board. I think its great to have a place to turn to when you have questions about the opposite sex. Especially seeing as friends and family can sometimes give you somewhat mixed advice. If you could please discuss this hypothetical situation and let me know how you would act, I would really appreciate it. I am eager to learn and improve my game.

Ok, You walk into a shop and see a cute girl. She is wearing no makeup and is dressed casually. You approach.
You walk into another shop and see the identical twin of the girl from before, except she is dressed provicatively, with makeup and tons of jewellery. You approach.

Is the approach and initial conversation differant for each girl? Or would you act the same for both? After hi, do you go into a situational conversation, a compliment, something funny or a neg hit?

Thankyou, I am really interested in seeing how you would respond.

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

lol, don't worry about what you'd do in diffrent situations while sitting in front of your computer. When the oppourtunity arises, do what you want to do. If you WANT to kino her, then do it. Hell if you aren't in the mood to chat then don't bother, my point is that it's all and only about what YOU want to do at any given time.

 

[jungleman pete]

So I should approach any girl I want without taking into consideration any subtle signals she may or may not be giving off by the way she has chosen to make herself appear.

So I walk up to the fat chick and talk to her the same way as I would Hillary Duff. Is that what you mean?

 

[Starman]

Im not sure what your hypothetical question is leading to,

but if you are asking, should you treat ALL women the same , YES!!

No woman should get "special treatment" because she douses her face with clown makeup and exposes a little skin,

Thats your Hormones talking, the RATIONAL part of you knows to treat ALL women the same Fat, short, ugly, GORGEOUS, etc..UNTIL she has proven to you some worth or value that you should treat her otherwise

i.e. imagine if it was a guy..that was a wimp/dressed nerdy and bumped into you by accident

You would have no Primal FEAR instinct, and you might just huff at him and walk away

Now imagine bumping into a burly grizzly sized harley dude..Your FEAR/PANIC response would be to treat him nice. and apologize and make it seem like it wasnt his fault

PAY ATTENTION to your LOGICAL REASONING, not your emotions or instincts when treating people accordingly

when women know you are giving them special treatment because of their looks and not who they are, You are categorized in the chump category

 

[VIVAlasVEGASBaby]

Is that what you mean?

I didn't mean anything. Don't worry about it. What i was trying to tell you was to do what you want. People will tell you to read the bible and bla bla bla but in the end it's up to you to decide where this life takes you.

My point is simple

Do what you want, when you want to do it, because life's too short to hold yourself back.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thankyou for your responses guys. I really appreciate it, especially as Im a newbie to the board. And I definitely understand your points. I just want to get to the bottom of this.

I will be approaching these girls. That is not in doubt. But in order to get the correct response (ie get her number or a date) should they be approached and spoken to slightly differantly?
Do I approach the twin with no makeup and jewellary and immediatly start neg hitting her.
Or should I save the neg hits for the girl with all that stuff.
You said that you would treat a nerd and a grizzly bear differantly and rightly so, does this apply to women then?

 

[Starman]

DO NOT USE NEG HITS, unless the girl is acting all prissy like her shyat dont stink!!

TEASING is OK, NEG HITS, Ive found are useless with the girls that are already cool with you

What I mean is Talk to every girl like you dont CARE about what they look like

YOUR LOGIC says: they are just another human being

Your Libido/Primal Instincts say - GOD DAMN!! SHE IS SOOOO HOT!!!!! Let Me Be EXTRA NICE WITH HER TO HOPEFULLy SCOREE!!!!

DONT LISTEN TO YOUR LIBIDO when confronting women

 

[So pimp its scary]

Welcome Jungleman pete... interesting name btw.

You may not agree with this style, but I live by that rule : 'Treat all woman the same unless they do something to deserve otherwise.'

I just walk around through life, and not worry about when sex will come around again... talk to people all the time, and make friends with them. But, at the same time, I'm constantly looking for the signs of who and how I should take it to the next level with... I also try and keep 5-7 prospects at a time in the works.

Just don't concentrate on getting into a woman's pants, concentrate on getting to know the woman, even if you don't really care much, and the woman will appreciate it much more.

 

[Beige]

I treat every human being different. I talk differently to a Punk than to a bussinessman, I use different vocabluary, body language, and bring up different arguments in discussion. I adjust and this helps me to communicate.


Jugleman - DJs in replies to your question told you to treat every girl the same. They ment that you should respect every girl as much and don't put any of them on pedestal. Your approach should be different each time however.

One twin sister has a makeup - how heavy? If it's overly heavy - you know that she likes partying, so don't talk much about your career bc she won't be interested in it, focus on that part of your life. The other twin hasn't got a makeup, so she doesn't care that much about her look or believes that she looks better without it - in each case it gives you hints that talking about career etc might be a better idea.

Of course it's not a rocket science - perhaps one of them just didn't have time this day to put on makeup, perhaps it was a first time that the other one put it so much or she's just had an important meeting. You'll find it out in convo and act upon it.

People are different, most DJs adjust naturally so they don't really think about it. That's why they told you that they treat every girl different, their approach differs every time.

 

[jungleman pete]

Thanks for the responses everyone.

Thats what I thought Beige, you have to treat people the same, but differantly. Always be cool, polite and all that, but also take into consideration the other clues the way they dress and maybe talk give away. When i've been out and about talking to people (not just the ladies) if you want to get anywhere with them, you have to be able to talk to them on their level. You cant walk up to a hot goth chick and ask her what she thinks of the latest Matchbox 20 song. You have to be able to get to them on their level. You talk about the Marilyn Manson clip you saw on tv or something. You do this and all of a sudden, your their friend. You get them. Getting the numbers should be a piece of cake after that.
But I wasnt really getting at anything when I posted, I just wanted to see how the other DJ's change their game according to the situation. Thanks again.