"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hurt my girl very badly last night need help

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Please help out, it has to do with my girlfriend, well, ahh I hope we're still together I was wasted last night and you know how drunks speak truths..

Not much about my sex life (but I was feeling up on another girl and I told her that ) as I was just talking some major **** to her guy friend.

Im actaully serious about keeping this girl, she means something to me.

She said she cares but doesnt know if she loves me, and she deleted me from her friends on myspace.... ooooooooh yah I know big deal:nervous: . But no I really hurt her, and put her under tons of pressure, and told her that we are going to have sex and you just dont go around telling people that ****, any ideas, cmon boys I know that theres something because Im honestly lost, I can only say Im sorry and what not and I dont even know what...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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That's what you get for being a "pimp".
 

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OOOOOOOO BURNNNED

keep tryin to talk to her

tell her ur sorry every min u got

show her that u care

kiss her ass
 

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wait so what did u actually do wrong to her? tell her ud have sex and didnt do it? talk **** to her guy friend?

when u say "felt up another girl", how far we talkin here?

WAT EXACTLY DID U CONFESS TO UR GF????

i gotta kno more details b4 i can dish out advice ya kno?
 

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I think the only way out of it is supplication; but is she worth it? I say learn from your costly mistake an move on if you want to hold on to your dignity.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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wait so what did u actually do wrong to her? tell her ud have sex and didnt do it? talk **** to her guy friend?

when u say "felt up another girl", how far we talkin here?

WAT EXACTLY DID U CONFESS TO UR GF????

i gotta kno more details b4 i can dish out advice ya kno
Okay... Her ****in' piece of weird jap friend was saying things to her "hey you better invite me to your sleepover"
she said "Oh dear I dont think so, you might end up stripping or something"

So I being completely wasted started bashing this guy nasty.
And I told my girl I was ****ing pissed at her.
And I guess she cried now two days ago and went to this jap ass instead of me.

Well turns out that she "didn't know what to do" and I said "Im ****ing wasted and check my myspace, look at all the other girls.. oh and I just felt up on daisy I shouldve asked for more. when you get back we are going to have sex."

Then I went on a complete rave saying **** like "I love you (repetedly) and why do feel the way you do? Ill kill whoever's talking **** to you, I love you"

She told me she really cares about me and doesn't love me bc she doesn't believe in it and thats how it ended, and now she deleted me as a friend on myspace as well and set her account private.

Im ****in lost, I could honestly give a **** less about ****ing around with other girls for her.
 

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Fransico gave you the only possible answer.
 

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OH MY GOD this is so easy

just tell her u bs'ed her bout feelin up that girl cuz u were drunk and stupid - DO say ur sorry but dont explain it any further

then, if shes not feelin it, pull back and make her miss u, she'll come back.....
 

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skip2mylou781 said:
OH MY GOD this is so easy

just tell her u bs'ed her bout feelin up that girl cuz u were drunk and stupid - DO say ur sorry but dont explain it any further

then, if shes not feelin it, pull back and make her miss u, she'll come back.....
I think so too. this sorta happened to me a little while back. Only I didnt care about the girl as much as you do. Anyways...does she know you were drunk? If not, tell her for gods sakes! Reason should trump all here. Give her one sorry like skip said and leave it at drunken stupidity. If she won't go back to you after an apology, plus the fact that you weren't in your right mind at the time anyways? Then she might be a *****.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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here's an update... I found out that she has a best guy friend that she messes with... she still wants to be with me though, I really dont like her. she says she cares and what not but shes just messed up Im not sure where her mind is. ahh I will let her come back around in time and then use her for sex/head and leave it. Im disgusted with her. I cant let her break my heart. Thanks for the help anyway.
 

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she messes with another guy??

use her for the slut that she is and thats all - ps use condoms!!!

and b suave, **** around with as many other girls as u want
 
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You know how we do what we do :up:

lol you should see my myspace, it's ridiculous, I ALMOST feel bad for her, I said ALMOST. lol ;)


How's your ****? Are you going to date your **** buddy? Man good for you to find two of them... I feel like I have to get girls to fall in love with me before they mess with me.
 

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private message me ur myspace, ill sent u mine 2 - but i just got a new 1 so its still pretty empty and shyt
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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high school relationships r exactly wat u jsut described - esp for someone who sounds as pimp as u r.....u THINK u have feelings, then they go away on a whim and ur fvckin the next bytch who u THINK u have feelings for, meanwhile playing girls on the side.....thats how it works until ur in like ur early to mid 20s at the very least!
 

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I would suggest a change of username, and the good decisions will start making themselves.
 
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