"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Human resources friends or foes?

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If your interest aligns with the company, friends. They are there to protect the company's interests/image first. Fun to hang out with, not fun at all to contact or deal with internally within the company.
 

eli77

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If your interest aligns with the company, friends. They are there to protect the company's interests/image first. Fun to hang out with, not fun at all to contact or deal with internally within the company.
Makes sense im in hospitality!
 

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My only run-in with HR happened when one of my customers made comments about the ethnicity of a new employee, saying he couldn’t be trusted because he had several newcomers working for him and high turnover due their disloyalty.

I mentioned this confidentially to my boss while we were shooting **** (we even spoke the same language), after he asked how the customer was doing. Instead of just ignoring the comments, he threw me under the bus by opening an HR investigation and including the sales manager as well.

In the end, I had enough documentation to show the customer was simply frustrated with our service, which explained his comments. The customer is still with us, and ironically, he was right: the new employee left after a few months.

Point is: don’t blindly trust anyone at your company.
 

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Depends on how "woke" they are.

Reminds me of a situation at a past job, where a colleague referred to one of the most pedantic of the HR people as a "N@zi", and it got back to her.
Turns out said N@zi is actually a Chew.. and a woman, of course.

I don't know who arrived at this "punishment", but my colleague was instructed to accompany this N@zi Chew for a week, so as to better appreciate her attention to detail.

My colleague described the week as torture, being buddied to his worst enemy as a useless appendage, whilst she pontificated at meetings and presided over peer review sessions (which seemed to be all she ever did).
But I think whoever came up with that resolution had a sense of humour.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It really depends on your situation, just pray you have a bunch of noble highly intuitive goal setting dudes backing you up. If Human Resources is not doing its job, I’d talk to another male supervisor or even the owners of the joint just to get my point across.
 

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HR is always aligned with the company no matter how "neutral" they may try to appear
I work from home but I don't miss working in the office where people will act friendly in your face just to throw you under the bus
I'm not saying all but there are some people who are opportunists
 

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HR is always aligned with the company no matter how "neutral" they may try to appear
I work from home but I don't miss working in the office where people will act friendly in your face just to throw you under the bus
I'm not saying all but there are some people who are opportunists
So true especially the bigger ones
 

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Things haven't gotten THAT out of hand in The US just yet, but we do seem to be headed in that direction. Worse yet, proponents of Red Pill Theology aren't opposed to abolishing HR departments altogether, so much as they are creating a world where the rest of us are now sanctioned for saying things that run contrary to their OWN dogma
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Things haven't gotten THAT out of hand in The US just yet, but we do seem to be headed in that direction. Worse yet, proponents of Red Pill Theology aren't opposed to abolishing HR departments altogether, so much as they are creating a world where the rest of us are now sanctioned for saying things that run contrary to their OWN dogma
I respectfully disagree!
 
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