huh... weird texts from girlfriend

[wwwwww]

I'm going back to college after being gone for summer, and I tell my girlfriend what day I'm coming back. She says she's so happy I'm coming back and that she feels kind of silly saying this but it's felt really hard being apart and that we didn't get 'ready' for this, like we didn't talk about it before we left for summer, but "not that there was anything to prepare." Then says something about how we didn't really check how involved we are.

It was weird, it was like she was searching for some affirmation that we're serious. Or many she wants me to say I love her. I don't really get it. She never brought this stuff up until I told her the day.

 

[Ease]

be cool and dont say much about it tbh, if she says she missed you then say i missed you too.

dont go lovey dovey and AFC . Sounds like maybe she wants validation, dont give too much to her, keep your cool.

And shes the one that says I love you first. Give a bit less than you recieve.

 

[Raikojo17]

Say

"B1tch I told you don't worry bout what I'm doin! I'll be back when I be back!!"

Then give her a pimp hand

seriously though. sounds like she missed you. I don't know if you have to prepare for these things, but just let her know you missed her too...if you did that is

 

[HoneyHitter]

I recognize this. And I think you already know what's up:

She says she's so happy I'm coming back (= "don't get angry" )
and that she feels kind of silly saying this (= "sorry")
but it's felt really hard being apart (= " but I was horny")
and that we didn't get 'ready' for this,(= " and didn't know if it'd be worth waiting for you")
like we didn't talk about it (= "you never said I couldn't have sex with someone else" )
before we left for summer,
but "not that there was anything to prepare." (= "It' not my fault" )
Then says something about how we didn't really check how involved we are. (= "It's your fault. YOU never warned me I could lose you if I did")

 

[HoneyHitter]

By the way...

Text her the following message: "It's over <insert her name>.", and keep approaching other girls.

 

[EFFORT]

I recognize this. And I think you already know what's up:

good job

 

[EFFORT]

By the way...

Text her the following message: "It's over <insert her name>.", and keep approaching other girls.

but thats silly why end it? Just keep her as a fb.

 

[Allurre]

She's just insecure and needs some reinforcing messages that YOU and her are exclusively involved. It's been some time and she's not sure whether you've drifted apart while absent.

 

[handle]

I recognize this. And I think you already know what's up:

This seems just a little paranoid to me... Don't you think?
Even though it's hard to give interpretation to something this specific, all I can say is it heavily depends on what your girl is like. Seems to me like something a relatively inexperienced, naive girl might say. Or to say it more positively, one that hasn't bought into all the cynical rules of dating (like, don't show your feelings too openly.)

 

[Ease]

I recognize this. And I think you already know what's up:

i LOL'd

i hope for the sake of OP this is wrong. although i see your point.

 

[HoneyHitter]

This seems just a little paranoid to me... Don't you think?

...those were exactly my thoughts all times I let it slip...

I hope you're right, but my experience begs to differ.
You can always follow up with "Just kidding ", and she'll have gotten her share of drama for that day.

 

[HoneyHitter]

but thats silly why end it? Just keep her as a fb.

If she ends it, he can forget all about that FB status you mentioned.
If he dumps HER, he'll still have a foot in the door because she needs the validation.The other guy becomes the BF, and she'll become his FB for the sake of validation.

 

[Lust]

...those were exactly my thoughts all times I let it slip...

I hope you're right, but my experience begs to differ.
You can always follow up with "Just kidding ", and she'll have gotten her share of drama for that day.

rofl.

I'm stealing that.

*bows politely*

 

[Jblitz59]

honeyhitter nail'd it, if that isn't her indirectly saying she 'cheated' on you then idk what does.

that'd be like you going off to war and her saying i didn't KNOW we were THAT serious. take offence because she is implying she isn't INTERESTED

 

[eaglez1177]

^agreed.

And nice job honeyhitter