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Huggies Pulls Ads After Insulting Dads

Bible_Belt

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The ads that bother me more are the ones that show a woman being violent towards a man, like punching, smacking, or throwing things at him, and it's all a big funny joke. If an ad showed a man hitting a woman, an angry mob would come and burn down that company's building to show how much they were against violence:rolleyes: . But violence against men from women is supposed to be hysterical.

A friend of mine who is a prosecuting attorney told me that 1/3 of his domestic violence cases are women hitting men. Guys grow up with the idea drilled into their head that they can't hit a woman, so they won't defend themselves. You might think that a woman can't hit very hard, but she knows that too, so they are more likely to do things like throw boiling water on you while you sleep (true story). The media environment has not caught up to that yet. It is just now having to deal with the idea of men being able to take care of a child.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lisa-belkin/huggies-pulls-diaper-ads_b_1339074.html

Huggies Pulls Ads After Insulting Dads
03/12/2012
by Lisa Belkin

Huggies is sorry. Very very very sorry.

So sorry, that it rushed representatives down to Austin this weekend to apologize, repeatedly, to 200-plus Dad bloggers gathered at their first ever convention, called Dad 2.0.

The company thought it had a winner of an ad campaign -- a series of spots all filmed during five days spent in a house with real dads and their babies. "To prove that Huggies diapers and wipes can handle anything," the female voice-over explains, "we put them to the toughest test imaginable -- Dads."

The marketers at Kimberly-Clark, which owns Huggies, figured it was a combination that couldn't miss. It showed fathers parenting! It included adorable babies! It was light-hearted and fun, what with those poor hapless dads responsible for their own children for five whole days!

After all, marketers knew, men behaving like actual parents is the "new" thing in advertising (I use the quotation marks because we have seen waves of this before, so perhaps we should say it's the latest rediscovery of a new thing.) Clorox shows cool Dads making a wildly fun mess with the kids and then, quite matter of factly, doing the laundry. Apple shows a brand new Dad shattered that the hundreds of photos of his baby's life are lost when he loses his iPhone, only to remember that they are in the cloud. Jetta chronicles a boy growing into a man, replacing backpack with baby carrier, and evolving from asking "Is it fast?" to "Is it safe?" Microsoft's ad has Dad grocery shopping while his giggling kids are back home remotely adding items like candy and chocolate cake to his list.

Embracing this trend -- Dads doing Mom stuff! -- Huggies figured they would charm women (who purchase 75 percent of all diapers) and possibly convert a few men (who buy five percent; the other 20 percent are joint purchases.) What they didn't take into account, however, was another trend -- the one where the growing number of men who consider themselves involved, equal parents (according to the US Census, one in three are their child's primary caregiver) are more than a little sensitive about being portrayed a the butt of an advertiser's joke.

Which is how more than a few men interpreted the Huggies series of ads, particularly the one in which the fathers are so involved watching TV sports that they appear to ignore their babies' overflowing diapers. The addition of an invitation to Moms on the brand's Facebook page, suggesting that they "Nominate a Dad ... Hand him some diapers & wipes and watch the fun ... Tell us how it went on Facebook!" certainly amplified the impression that Dads were being mocked.

The reaction was swift. Taking a page from the mothers who rose up against a Motrin ad a few years ago that some saw as insulting to "baby-wearing parents", fathers (and a few mothers) filled the Huggies Facebook Wall with complaints. "Thanks for contributing to the perception that fathers are incompetent parents who let babies lay around in their own waste until they can be rescued, was one typical comment. Another: "The narrow view of gender roles...hurts dads AND moms. We should all be free to fill our family roles in the way that makes sense based on our skills and interests, not on some antiquated, stereotypical gender binary."

Soon, there was a petition. Created by Chris Routly, a father from Breiningsville, PA, it was titled "We're Dads, Huggies. Not Dummies." And it said:

Why is a dad on diaper duty an appropriate or meaningful test of the product in any way a mom using them is not? Why reduce dads to being little more than test dummy parents, putting diapers and wipes through a "worst-case scenario" crash course of misuse and abuse? Is that what HUGGIES thinks dads do? We leave our children in overflowing diapers because sports is more important to us? Really?

These HUGGIES ads literally use the line "Dads push diapers and wipes to the limit." No, HUGGIES, dads don't do that. Poor manufacturing does that. A large bottle before naptime does that. Feeding your kid too much fiber does that. Babies do that. But dads don't use diapers and wipes any differently than moms.

And there were more than a few suggestions of what Huggies could do with their series of ads. Jim HIgley wrote on the blog of The Good Men Project:

Swap out a couple of those chairs with moms. So you've got a room full of moms and dads (collectively, we call them "Parents.") ... Get over the gender thing, will ya, Huggies? Because, as best as I can tell from all the comments you're ignoring on Facebook, most of us parents have been over the gender thing for years.

Huggies did not take all that advice. What it did was pull one of the series -- the one with the men watching sports. (I can't show it to you because the company may not be perfect at reading its intended customer, but it is dynamite at scrubbing all links from the internet.) It replaced that one with this, a spot about babies napping happily on their dads' chests, though, for the moment at least, it carries the same "dads...put diapers to the test" message.

That tagline will change soon, promises Aric Melzl, the brand director for Huggies, who rushed from Wisconsin to appear at the conference, where the snowballing Dad-blog movement was gathered in one place.

Huggies loves and respects fathers, he assured me during a day spent mending fences and smoothing feathers with any blogger who would listen. This ad campaign was meant to be a "celebration" of Dads who ably care for kids, he said, but "clearly our intent wasn't coming through." Himself the father of three children, ages 9, 8 and 5, he knows first hand that "dads are doing that more and more, and we thought this was a great way to shine a light on that," he said. "But that doesn't seem to have been the takeaway for many dads."

And what was the takeaway for the company?

"That the social media space is a great way to get immediate feedback," he said.

Why all this effort, I asked him. After all, by the company's measure, men really don't buy all that many diapers. Is it because they are an untapped potential market? Because they are newly vocal and empowered? Because the reality of this new media age is that you have to respond to every fire with conviction?

Not really, Melzl said. Huggies is reponding to unhappy men, because those men have the ear of women. "All of this," the initial campaign, the full-on response, is targeted at moms," he said. "I don't want there to be any question about who we we're going after."

I suspect all those rankled fathers will be unhappy to hear that.
 

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I don't like to watch emasculating stuff either, but really I don't see it as a threat.

I mean, women portraying men as helpless and stupid happens in each and every chick flick all the time. So how is it a big surprise that it's in ads.

Maybe some dads see it as a personal attack against their abilities, but really I think what's described in those ads is quite mild. No self-respecting guy should argue with chick flicks, because he's just above that.
 

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It's just fvcking sad, really.

In my marriage, I was the one who had to rescue the child from overflowing diapers because mom was too busy playing video games. When the child is left in a 5hitty diaper, it's harder to clean and the child gets a rash. When his mother was in charge of changing him, he ALWAYS had a rash. It only went away while he was under my care.

The unfortunate thing is this stereotype is rampant EVERYWHERE. My ex decided that my child was autistic and did everything within her power to get him diagnosed as such. The health care professionals did not listen to me when I spoke up about my child's problems and went along with the mother's over-blown issues. Lo and behold, my child has been diagnosed as autistic.

He's in school now with an EA. The EA knows better. She has commented that my child's behavior is day and night depending who's home he's currently at. When he comes from my home, his behavior is fantastic. He tells the EA what he has for breakfast (pop tarts at mom's, cereal at dad's). She was absolutely blown away at his ability to read. When she asked him who taught him to read, he says "dad!"

But it's been such an uphill battle. The stereotype that dads are lazy and uninvolved in the child's life has made things more difficult for me. Many don't expect it to be the other way around.
 

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The stereotype that dads are lazy and uninvolved in the child's life has made things more difficult for me. Many don't expect it to be the other way around.

And the court system is the biggest perpetrator. Law school teaches that "maternal preference" does not exist any more, because it is so obviously Unconstitutional. :rolleyes:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maternal_preference#Maternal_Preference

The tender years doctrine is a legal principle which ...presumes that during a child's "tender" years (generally regarded as the age of thirteen and under), the mother should have custody of the child. The doctrine often arises in divorce proceedings.

...several courts have held that the tender years doctrine violates the equal protection clause of the Fourteenth Amendment to the U.S. Constitution.

Statistics such as those from the U.S. Census Bureau indicate that family courts still demonstrate an overwhelming preference to place the children of a divorce in the custody of the mother. A study of FACT Canada association shows the mothers is awarded the sole custody or the primary residence in more than 80% of the cases. The situation is not much different in EU countries, for example in Romania the mother is granted custody in over 84.5% of the cases.

Critics maintain that the father must prove the mother to be an unfit parent before he is awarded primary custody, while the mother need not prove the father unfit in order to win custody herself, and that this is contrary to the equal protection clause.
 
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