huge problem

[asianskillz]

Ok, so i have a large problem. Starting off, i liked a girl for about a year and a half, almost 2 years. My first problem is distance, we don't go to the same high school and my parents don't really trust me going to places with friends so communication is a problem, everything we say to each other is mostly on social networks or by text messaging. Which leads to my second problem. Just a few days ago, i found out that she likes someone else who has recently graduated from high school and she appears to be pretty in to the person. I do not know what to do, have i entered the friend zone? how can i get out and not only that, but to have her like me rather than the other person who is graduating? What do i say to her if i do tell her how i feel about her? i really need help on this issue.

 

[Nick1886]

firstly and most importantly - its only one girl so its not a huge problem

 

[Gro0ver]

It doesn't sound that great seeing as it's effectively long distance and you mainly talk by text and social network. Doesn't seem all that fulfilling. .

Why don't you dump her and see what happens? It sounds like you're young...there's plenty more women to come into your life, and it's good to know you can break up with someone and be on your own. Will save you a lot of trouble later on and it will give you a great feeling of inner strength that so many dudes are lacking.

Sounds like it's on it's way out away, so you can strive to be the master of your fate, take control....or you can sit by and see what happens until she decides to dump you.

Besides the above, it's very rare to get back together after a female-initiated breakup. Given that you mostly communicate from long distance, you don't have much opportunity to increase her interest level. I think you know what it's heading towards, so why not make a pre-emptive strike?

All that time spent typing messages on facebook and texting can then be spent on pumping iron and gaming chicks who you can actually be with in person from time to time :yes:

Yes you can do it, you'll be surprised how strong you are when you disregard emotions and do what you know is best listen to your gut it doesn't lie.

 

[Rhino]

You can't. You've dwelled on one person for far too long, which I can't even fathom because apparently you don't even see this girl in person ever. Keep her as a friend, but please, please do not confess your "feelings of love" to someone who has a relationship with you of longtime friend and texting buddy.
Sorry if this seems harsh; it is. Go out and meet some new people and you'll forget all about it.

 

[Blistex]

The distance problem is definitely an obstacle and I don't see any way around it for you. A possible solution would be to invite her over to your house and when you parents begin to trust her and not see her as bad influence for you, they might allow you to at least hang out with her outside.

If she is interested in someone else, then there's not much hope for a relationship between you and her. Don't confess your feelings to her because that's not going to make her like you. There are plenty of other girls out there. So my word of advice to you is to move on. Though, keep her as a friend if you'd like.

 

[Mindgamez]

You have one itis bro! Don't worry, you're not alone.

Go get some other girls. Remember, asian power! She's not the one, and there's no way you can tell if she's the one at this age. Talk to more girls, expand your social circle. When you switch into abundance mode, she's not a big deal anymore and you wonder why you were so damn needy in the first place!

 

[alxrose04]

Distance is always tough. One of the only ways to combat that is to see each other as much as possible. Granted, you can't exactly go over there like you said but have you thought of skype? Or some type of video chat?

Texting and social networks don't give you that connection that looking at her does, you know? And a by product of that is her connecting with someone else. But all is not lost!

The beauty of this is that you get to learn. Corny, but true. On top of that, I agree with everyone else on this thread about dating/talking to other girls. The beauty of it is that after you'll be dealing with too many good looking girls to worry when one isn't calling you.