HUGE holes in my "game"

[oakraiderz2]

Last week i was in a ****ty mood and thought about my approach, how i handled situations and and the time i made stupid mistakes (which is probably more than anyone here). I started to question how i did things and all my flaws. Needless to say i sucked my "psuedo"-confidence away, not to mention i care far too much of what people think of me, causing me to walk on egg shells. When it comes to hanging out with girls solo i ALWAYS hesitate when it comes to making a move, even if i know they want me to. I dont understand quite a few things obviously. Why would a girl still be down if someone hesitates (lack of confidence)? Appearently i bore girls as well. This girl i was chilling with last night said i bored her, but we did make out. So is it just a curtiousy thing or what? I guess i just dont know when to make a move. I dont wanan be real eager, but im tired of doing things the way i do. Im basically trying to, reinvent if you will, my game. Ive always gotten decent results but...its gonna be a new year, im moving to go to school in a college town and i need to unleash my potential...so help me out.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

You need to define yourself so you have some idea how you should approach a woman. Right now you're trying to wing it or play it by ear and not having a game plan is the thing that is causing your hesitation. It's as if you are a salesman who needs to sell to a woman the contents of a box however, you have no idea what's in the box. How do you present it if you don't know what it is?

 

[Last Man Standing]

If a girl "made out" with you even though she called you a bore, tells me that you have to be a decent looking guy to overcome your lack of an exciting personality!

Some people do not have an exciting dynamic persona so I don't think you can be the most exciting cat in town just by willing it - - but what you cam do is do fun exciting activities where the main focus is not on talking but on the activity -- then you can make commentary as needed.

Once a girl knows you better and likes you then she sees you in a different light and will not judge you solely on one characteristic - and will make allowances for your flaws!!

As Francisco said..plan things out more if you are not the spontaneous type - which you are obviously not!

 

[oakraiderz2]

If a girl "made out" with you even though she called you a bore, tells me that you have to be a decent looking guy to overcome your lack of an exciting personality!

True...very true.I think its not that i dont have an exciting personality per se, but i just hold a lot of stuff back. During the movie i was bored as hell and kept looking around and fidgiting. I should have asked for a tour and been all a.d.d. and random and what not. When it comes to all people, not just girls, i bite my tongue quite often and i hate it. I konw i cant change overnight but it seems like ill never change. There will be times when i know i should say what i want and i want to, but i just dont.

plan things out more if you are not the spontaneous type - which you are obviously not!

In all honesty, i thought i was more spontaneous than i come off to be. Im sure last night i didnt, but thats obvious. More of a reason to not give a fvck.