Hug the girl

[Realdemo]

I think i've made a big mistake today.
This girl have already a bf (but now she's undecided to split or not), while talking with me(about she, us and the situation)during a tension talk, i've noticed her expression really sad like she start to crying.
I've after second later hug her...this hug was very very quickly, instinctive and unfortunately hampered but also sincere and spontaneous.
After that she run away "sorry but i've to go at home"

I think i've lost her forever....or not?

Is or not a good advice to hug the girl (when she appear sad like she start to crying) for transmit genuine attraction to her and to transmit that you like her for real?

Of course appear hampered is not a good way or the girl will appreciate this demosntration of spontaneous?

 

[hotcheeitos]

I think you should hug her alot. There is nothing wrong with that.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

First off, you shouldn't be talking to her about her relationship problems. You are her emotional tampon now.

 

[PRMoon]

Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
First off, you shouldn't be talking to her about her relationship problems. You are her emotional tampon now.

agreed she's got problems with her relationship so the nearest warm body of the opposite sex (you) end up being her emotional dumping ground. You don't want to hear about her whiny problems with her boyfriend.

tell her to talk to one of her girlfriends about that kind of thing but her boyfriend should be an off limits subject when the two of you are together. You can still salvage this one with some seperation and utilizing that guideline in your encounters with her.

 

[flexion_]

If you keep listening to her bf problems then yes you have lost her forever. Stop doing that... LOL

Hug her when she isn't talking about something sad or crying and see what happens.

 

[00Kevin]

Don't hug the girl .. tha tis a quick way into the friends zone.

If you do accept a hug make sure you always turn it into something exciting. Tease her in a sexual but respectfull way.

here are a few options

1. Make the sound of a large aggressive cat in her ear.
2. smell her neck
3. slap her butt or grab it
4. tickle the back of her neck
5. put your hand under the back of her shirt (above her ass) and tickle her
6. say in a joking tone. ("oh candi I can't get enough of you")

the hug is your chance to set you appart from all the other guys she dates.

The Hug will ALWAYS come up so you have to be ready to remind her that she is something you are interesting in sexually.

I remember feeling up a girls ass once while i huged her good night.
After that, this girl couldn't stop thinking about me that night and didn't get much sleep well..that is what she told me anyway,

As for the other guy don't worry about it. Just asume that all girls have a boyfriend. (which is kind of true anyway)

 

[DJHoolahoop]

Point is that I don't think it's WRONG to listen to her the FIRST time bytch about her bf problems, but if you catch her doing it again I'd tell her straight you aint a Pyschiatrist.

As for hugging her, I'd say DO it if she seems REALLY upset about it and looks like she needs comforting. Overdoing it can land you the "you're so nice, i'm lucky to have you" category which translates into "my bf is a d1ck, thank god i can go to you for emotional support and for hugs."

 

[seize_the_pattern]

do the kind of stuff that makes you the one who knows whats going on, advice on a particular situation keeps you down below,


It keeps you from the steering wheel

 

[BigFoot]

Listening to a girl talk about her BF or husband problems is often the basis on which a new relationship begins. She will feel close to you. I don't know if this goes against any 'rules' around here but I've seen it happen alot

 

[yunghova35]

Originally posted by Realdemo

I think i've lost her forever....or not?

ummm she has a BF. which means you NEVER had her

Originally posted by Realdemo

Is or not a good advice to hug the girl (when she appear sad like she start to crying) for transmit genuine attraction to her and to transmit that you like her for real?

I dunno where you got the idea that a HUG can create or transmit attraction but it WONT and NEVER will

 

[skinnydart]

I dunno where you got the idea that a HUG can create or transmit attraction but it WONT and NEVER will

... and that is why kino is so unimportant and should never be used.

 

[00Kevin]

Originally posted by BigFoot
Listening to a girl talk about her BF or husband problems is often the basis on which a new relationship begins. She will feel close to you. I don't know if this goes against any 'rules' around here but I've seen it happen alot

this couldn't be more wrong.

Follow this advice and she will say, "I think of you as a brother".

 

[BigFoot]

Follow this advice and she will say, "I think of you as a brother".

If only this were true. I lost a girlfriend this way once and recently a friend of mine (was married) fell in love with a guy who first consoled her when her husband had hit her. That's how their relationship started.