Sunday: Pub/Bar (Mon is a bank holiday)
For the first time in a while, I'm going out solo again. Pre-drunk one beer. Feeling kinda nervous, can't really think of a lot of convo topics, openers, "moves", whatever. Having a bit of a mind block, but the bus stops and I'm at my destination. Here goes!
I walk past the bar I originally targeted. Ugh. Have I become that insecure man? Wow. At least I'm a lot better looking than I was back in the day. So I'm taking walk around the block. While I'm walking, I notice an old rock/metal bar I used to frequent. Why not, I think, let's have a warmup beer there. Really love metal anyway!
1. Rock bar
So I walk in, quickly scan the room - ****. The place is half-empty, there are a couple of girls at one table, and some guys here and there. Was hoping to catch some people at the bar so I can warm up for the night. Screw it I say, sit down at the bar and have a quick beer. Scan the room a bit more and yep, no targets at all except for the mixed guy/girl group. I fumble with my cellphone and pretend I'm waiting for someone. They don't even have sports on TV so I can't even watch that. But I'm sitting quite relaxed, smiling contently, happy at the taste of the beer... so guess I didn't look like a real chump.
After a couple of mins I hit the restroom. As I'm peeing, I let out a MASSIVE burp! The guy next to me cracks up and congratulates me
So I go back to my beer and see the guy is at the girls' table, and they're away (presumably also in the restroom). I go to him, introduce myself, he has a bandshirt, bla bla conversation about metal, he's really chill. Girls return and I'm already in the group. Nice! But the one next to me is not attractive (to me) and has a huge b1tch shield. I feel like I'm not even going to bother with her. Wow. Why spend time and effort when she's not desirable anyway? But everyone's about to leave anyway. It seems like a quiet night. I finish my beer and say goodbye. Shucks, but at least I warmed up! Off to the actual bar!
2. Student bar
I walk in and - dang - not much happening here either! It's about midnight, this place should be buzzing! But it seems I picked the wrong day. Quickly scan the room, only a handful girls, and each seems to be here with her boyfriend/date. Damn it! But I'm not going to stand around stupidly, and I move to get a beer at the bar. As I'm getting the beer, a girl comes in (with presumably her boyfriend). As give her a little space at the bar she smiles at me. Huh. My mind is blanking, I'm convinced the guy is her boyfriend even though I don't know(!!). I take the beer and move to the other end of the bar. As I'm passing, she smiles at me again. DUH! A minute later I'm realizing that she liked me and I didn't open. Crap.
At the other end of the bar there's a guy drinking alone, so I'm joining him for some smalltalk while waiting for an opportunity. He's cool, not really interested but not rude. Another guy joins us, a bit older, we start talking, he tells some cool story. He's out alone too. I comment on how there's no single girls here. He says you don't know that! He's right. Then I notice that next to me, for some time, there had been a girl talking to a guy (whom I AGAIN assumed was the boyfriend). She moves away and it dawns on me that I could have opened her easily. Dang.
I head upstairs, not much here either. Somehow, lots of chumps standing at the walls, looking like zombies. Like in a late-night club when everyone is really f*cked up. But here's a group of 6 girls, they're having fun, dancing lightly. I'm considering! Should I open the set? I know I've done it before. But then I start thinking, it seems like a girls' night out, chances are slim, everybody can see you, yada yada. On top of that, I don't enjoy dancing to pop, and would do it only if I see a chance to get somewhere... I go downstairs again. Back to my drinking buddy, he gives me his card, I leave.
3. Outside
1am, I feel unsatisfied. I'm still in a good mood, looking fresh, smile on my face, this is not a time to go home! There is an Irish Pub nearby, damn it's closed. Don't know where to go from here at this time. There's lots of outdoor cafes, and people are getting up to go home. I briefly consider if I could pick someone up on the street. But it's not something I usually do, I find it a bit lame actually, and have no plan of how to go about it. I pass another place that I know, people are sitting outside, but everone can kinda see what I'm doing so it feels weird to approach a set outside when they're sitting in a cafe-like setting.
I head for the bus home. What can I do? At the bus station, a girl is standing next to me. Then a guy comes her way, I wonder what he's going to try. I overhear how he asks some lame question, she's like blah and he leaves. I actually rooted for the guy LOL. Felt like he was at least approaching when I had been running away from sets today.
Evaluation
Okay I was in the wrong place at the wrong time, didn't have a really good opportunity anywhere. But there were a couple of Maybes. I feel like I could have done more, maybe some suicidal approach, or at least some drunk crazytalk where I would have a t least had fun. MEH. This actually was my first solo night that didn't end up good. Really feel like I've lost my killer instinct. Everytime I see a non-perfect oppurtunity I think "why bother?"