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Hows this situation?

CarbonFX

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So basically this is one of those threads that requires opinion lol.

Well anyway, I met this girl in my math class during last year, and we kinda got along well. She's nice and all, and the problem is I only talked to her didn't really do much kino except almost only incidental and a few well placed ones etc.

So the major highlights of last year was just a bunch of texting (which I know is bad) but funny thing is she asked for my number close towards the end of the year. So yeah last year was a lot of fluff talk, C&F and minimal kino, and once she let me have a bite of her cake without tearing it or w/e and continued where I finished (not sure if that matters much).

Fast forward to summer, I only saw her once at the carnival and kinda talked there and got a hug, a friend won a prize and gave it to her and the rest was like 3 text sessions (not abysmally long) that was all that I heard from her this summer.

Present day, I kinda get to see her in passing period. Sunday I called her during break at work and chatted, I mentioned that I wanted to go to this Great America before the season ended and she tells me she never went, so I said that "Good, you're coming with me, but you pay for yourself lol" and I guess she took it positivity, so then I asked her did she want to ditch some classes so we can go hang out her reply is that she never ditched but people tried to make her and she asked where we would go and I said downtown or w/e. I don't remember her exact reply but it sounded like she was game. So then tomorrow I will tell her to try to change some classes around to fit mine. If it works out I'm pretty sure it's a good sign then huh? And I'm gonna tell her about this poll monitoring job during elections that we both can participate in see if she's game for that too.

Now my question to you guys is, am I displaying AFCish qualities (never confessed my love or liking of her, never got her cards and that kind of ****, I was just chill for the time I suppose) and did I land in the friends zone since I took so long or never realized what was there? Or do I still have potential to get this ball rolling? I personally think I might have to build up attraction some more, or it's already at the 'attraction singularity' so to speak.

Now, I really don't talk to her that often, except when we had math class last year. And I never really went out of my way to be with her, when she wanted me to buy some cookies for the sport she was doing I said no with a reply of "I only buy stuff for my GF's" and when I left for the weekend I can't remember what brought it up but one of the texts I got was something along the lines of "[be careful] I don't want you to die" or something like that when I said I would have crazy fun or something.

So how's the situation looking?
Thanks in advance.

PS. If there is more info required, let me know I know I just typed crap but its late and I got school.

EDIT: I hate my situation, I work 7 days a week, no car that I myself own (yet for another maybe 5+ months) but if I need to get somewhere I just take the car that my mom drives or w/e. So obviously I don't have a great deal of time to go hang out or w/e if need be yeah I can try to find sometime so its not set in stone. And any spare time that I have is devoted to AP classes lol. No I'm not a nerd, I'm semi-popular if there is such a thing lol. Just thought I'd throw that out there.
 

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just take her out somewhere and put on the moves, doesnt seem like shes def LJBF'd you so give it a try

just remember to kino alot etc, let her know that you like her before its too late and see where it goes
 
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CarbonFX said:
am I displaying AFCish qualities?

did I land in the friends zone since I took so long or never realized what was there?

Or do I still have potential to get this ball rolling?
You should be alright. You appeared confident with your proposal for a date. You won't need to worry about the friend zone if you make your intentions known (soon!).

Yes, you do have potential to get the ball rolling - and to do that you need to...get the ball rolling! Get at it!

Good Luck
 

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Alright, I'm hanging out w/ her tomorrow at the mall. Dunno if that automatically counts as a date but whatever. So how do I make my intentions known? Lots of kino? Does it always have to be her idea to bring up dating?

Another problem is homecoming is coming soon, I dunno, I'd ask her but I know for a fact that a friend wants to go with her as well and I'm pretty sure he will do it as soon as he gets the chance. How does this complicate the situation?
 
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