"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
How's this shirtless pic for pof?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
backseatjuan
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I'll put it like this, you are super http://www.rankopedia.com/CandidatePix/79824.gif
HoneyHitter
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Just don't.
HoneyHitter
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You can always try, but this pic prob won't work in your advantage.Asterisk said:
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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I think you are improving ( no sarcasm )
Would you consider losing that beard ?
And how about starting a home workout ?
In the beginning you 'll grow by leaps and bounds.
5 push-ups ,
5 pull-ups.
Get a portable bar maybe ?
Edit : Look, I realize you have your style going on for you and you don't need anonymous basterds to tell you what's cool and what's not. But I'll tell you this... If you were this insanely skillful DJ, going out every day to every single coffee shop in town, with a huge social entourage and larger than life personality; you could theoretically compensate for whatever style you chose to adopt. People would be judgmental in the beginning but then they would realize you are really more than your first look. But you are choosing to game from your comfortable living room, and that changes the rules of engagement. Now all you have is a 15-seconds of first impression and you have to perfect it but removing all kinds of negative first impression cues. Online dating is a whole different ball game and you can't have your own different style and game accordingly in this business. Because, guess what? You don't have a vagina. Your options are restricted. If you don't want to be judged for how you look, just go out and do this in real life, and show the world that you can look however you want to look (with padlocks around your neck) and still get the hottest women. That's fine. But it won't work while you are sarging in POF ... Because women will be hiding behind their keyboards, too (just like us) and they will even be harsher than I am here, believe me.
They won't even put this much thought into this. They'll just move on to the next guy. I hope you'll be smart enough to realize, every one who has chimed in so far has done you a favor.
Good Luck!
Would you consider losing that beard ?
And how about starting a home workout ?
In the beginning you 'll grow by leaps and bounds.
5 push-ups ,
5 pull-ups.
Get a portable bar maybe ?
Edit : Look, I realize you have your style going on for you and you don't need anonymous basterds to tell you what's cool and what's not. But I'll tell you this... If you were this insanely skillful DJ, going out every day to every single coffee shop in town, with a huge social entourage and larger than life personality; you could theoretically compensate for whatever style you chose to adopt. People would be judgmental in the beginning but then they would realize you are really more than your first look. But you are choosing to game from your comfortable living room, and that changes the rules of engagement. Now all you have is a 15-seconds of first impression and you have to perfect it but removing all kinds of negative first impression cues. Online dating is a whole different ball game and you can't have your own different style and game accordingly in this business. Because, guess what? You don't have a vagina. Your options are restricted. If you don't want to be judged for how you look, just go out and do this in real life, and show the world that you can look however you want to look (with padlocks around your neck) and still get the hottest women. That's fine. But it won't work while you are sarging in POF ... Because women will be hiding behind their keyboards, too (just like us) and they will even be harsher than I am here, believe me.
They won't even put this much thought into this. They'll just move on to the next guy. I hope you'll be smart enough to realize, every one who has chimed in so far has done you a favor.
Good Luck!
As a matter of fact, I have a weight bench which I have been doing bench presses on (alternating between decline and flat as the weeks go by) and I have been L-sits hanging from the bar in the bench's squat position. Believe it or not, i used to be quite a bit skinnier.
With the bench in the squat position, the bar is about shoulder height (I'm actually 5'3 in reality)
so I can do pull-ups if I tuck my legs... I'm benching only about 80 pounds for 15 reps right now tho
I can squat about 50 lbs and dead-lift 250.
With the bench in the squat position, the bar is about shoulder height (I'm actually 5'3 in reality)
so I can do pull-ups if I tuck my legs... I'm benching only about 80 pounds for 15 reps right now tho
I can squat about 50 lbs and dead-lift 250.
1. don't take selfies for online dating profiles. Find a reason to get topless, and get someone else to take the picture
2. Get working out, do three sets of press-ups, squats and sit-ups a day, each until you can't do anymore.
edit: maybe you're good for the workout then
2. Get working out, do three sets of press-ups, squats and sit-ups a day, each until you can't do anymore.
edit: maybe you're good for the workout then
Not the most flattering lighting. Gym work aside, I am very sure if someone had a descent camera and knew what they were doing they could make you look half descent. As for the gym, get on some creatine. A spraytan might help a bit, again make sure its taken in better lighting.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
P
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Narcissism is rife in this thread.
Topless are tasteless and vulgar and not only that they scream "low class".
What's wrong posting a picture of you in smart clothing or doing an activity that you enjoy?
Topless are tasteless and vulgar and not only that they scream "low class".
What's wrong posting a picture of you in smart clothing or doing an activity that you enjoy?
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You have a very particular style that many women may not like. To make yourself viable in the dating world you may choose one of three paths.
1) Keep your style and work out like a savage. By savage I mean once or twice a day. Taking supplements, eating right the whole 9. Get huge!
2) Loose all the hair and flair, look clean, dress clean, game normal women...
3) Make lots of money.
This is not to say that it is impossible for you to find a nice girl that is into your scene. But right now you are limited to the girls that are in your hill billy type scene. If you wan't to enter the dating world and choose your mate from all the women out there you need to change.
1) Keep your style and work out like a savage. By savage I mean once or twice a day. Taking supplements, eating right the whole 9. Get huge!
2) Loose all the hair and flair, look clean, dress clean, game normal women...
3) Make lots of money.
This is not to say that it is impossible for you to find a nice girl that is into your scene. But right now you are limited to the girls that are in your hill billy type scene. If you wan't to enter the dating world and choose your mate from all the women out there you need to change.
bukowski_merit
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:crackup:perseverance said:
This is online dating we're talking about here.
Where 95% of the women are just looking to put the best pickle in their jar.
And why smart clothing??? That's not going to make most women on POF any more wet than a caveman appearance. We're talking about fvcking hoes - not finding your soulmate!
Nerding it up is absolutely fine if that's the type of crowd you're around.... The only thing that might attract on POF though is gold diggers who think that means you're filthy rich.
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With that said: Not a good shirtless pic at all. The only way "skinny shirtless" can be pulled off - is if you have the swimers build.
You need more definition in your abs.
Which you will get from doing squats and deadlifts just fine. But you're only squating 50 lbs? Why? You should also be benching and overhead pressing as well.
For now:
I'd lay off the shirtless pic.
Revisit in 3-4 months.
After eating A LOT more and working out better.
On the day you take it:
Fast for a day.
Workout (on BCAAs).
Then take the pic (you'll be the most defined; this is how fitness models do it - sometimes fasting for 2-3 days before a shoot!)
I also echo the person who said to take Creatine. It'll bloat you a bit - which you could use.
I'd also consider removing your beard. Unless you're content with getting fat women, Gothic girls, and juggalettes. You're going to have a hard time getting anything more than what you look like.