how's this for an approach?

[napoleon]

Coming to a girl after you had eye contact and all and saying(with a smile of course):

Look ,I had to come over to you and at least get to know you. I really dont care if you blow me off, but I had to approach you cause I'd kick myself later for not doing it! Hi, I'm...

Answer yes or no- if you think it might pass or it might be totally stupid.

Plz answer in the next 24hours cause I wanna try it on New Years party.

(I like saying honest things with a straight face and most of the time ppl think I'm joking and than I smile too.)

 

[Damian]

I really dont care if you blow me off

BAD BAD BAD!! By saying this one phrase, you're giving a girl a SHAMELESS opportunity to blow you off right there! I like the tone you're going for though. It's confident and direct. Don't even suggest getting blown off would be my advice.

-Damian

 

[Kaptain]

No....

Why do you have to justify your action. Don't give away your power.

Stick with:

Originally posted by napoleon Hi, I'm...

 

[napoleon]

But my approach would be the only one she gets, from all those hundreds of guys different. But I do see your point with I dont care if you blow me off.

 

[Fash]

I agree with the other two posts. But if you really want to use something like that you can maybe reword it:

you: Hi, you know when you see someone and you just feel that you have to go over and find out more about them?

her: nodding, or saying yes, or no, or whatever. it really doesnt matter

then you introduce your self.

if she asks you what made you want to go up to her, bla bla. DO NOT comment about her looks, specially if she is really hot because thats what every other AFC would do.

 

[[]D [] []V[] []D]

you dont have to lower your own status to meet someone... just say "hey.. how's it going, im (name)" thats what i liek to do, its easy

OR if youve seen her before or smth say like "Hey i noticed u got the highest in that competition, how long have you played that sport" or whatever

OR if her shoes are like extra high heels or smth then say like "Hey nice heels, i like it (while smiling)"

OR if one of your friends know her than get him/her to hook you two up to meet each other I prefer saying "hey whatsup, so what brings you to this party?"

theres MANY thigns to say, and dont worry.. you can show how unique you are once u talk to her.

 

[Alphathree]

Read my post on "patience."

Just say HI. SLOWLY. With eye contact.

Really, if you need to ask this question, you're going to screw it up anyway.

But I suppose it'll be a good learning experience.

 

[DarkLight]

I agree w. the top 2 guys...

the... "I really don't care if you blow me off" bit is fcvkin retarded. It shows exactly the opposite... that you really DO CARE.

The only reason why you would say that... is to cover up that fact, cause of lack of confidence and insecurity. (which we all have to a degree)

So drop that line, and just go w. the rest. Its direct, genuine, and has a charming authenticity to it. And I'm sure, like you said... there will be plenty of little moments, where cheeky/freindly smiles are in order, creating more of a connection.

Happy New Years All'
GoodLuck...

-DarkLight-

 

[mrswabe]

why don't you field test your approach?

We want to know how effective this opener can be.

Say it in a confident manner, like your being sarcastic.

 

[Soprano]

For some people it may work but I know for me something like that wouldn't. But saying "I'd kick myself later if I didnt" thats basically complimenting her right off the bat

 

[B-Lemond]

Originally posted by mrswabe
why don't you field test your approach?

 

[napoleon]

OK, I'm back (woke up in 2.30PM). I can say forget my approach-I didnt try it.
I will now tell you my experiences ,hoping it will help someone.

For an approach- have a wingman or find an isolated girl , or if you're really good and in the mood ,a pair of girls. Usually girls travel in pairs, and when you see one dancing with the guy and the other alone, if that girl look OK she WILL dance with you.
There is no -may I, should I, but -LETS DANCE GIRL.


For the mood- be playful, ****y, and even once in a while a jerk(a girl told me, when I said to her she's a 3.7 of 10, with a smile, that I was a jerk!-and than made out with me;-))

Maybe the girls were easy, they were, but with that tactic or how should I call it, I made out with 3 girls.
Problem is I gave them my number, cause I didnt have a paper or my celphone.(I always do that and regret)

One thing I dont understand with girls. They let you stick your tongue in her mouth but they're too nice to let you grab their ass!!!?!?!?!?


The thing is -if you use 10% of the material from this site, you set yourself appart from all those AFC's and be successful!!!