"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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how's this for an approach...?

napoleon

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I'll try it this weekend in a club.
You come over to a girl and say: I've been waiting for you to notice me all night but now I'm tired of waiting... I'm... Whats up...
Of course, you aren't waiting for her to notice you, it's just used as an approach.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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ModernSavage

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This reminds me of the "are you shy opener." It goes something like this:

If your standing near a HB

You: Hi, are you shy?

Her: No, why?

You: Well I've been standing here for like 5 minutes now and you haven't even said hi yet! (this is said in ****y funny tone)

Her: bla bla...giggles

you: It's ok, I know it can get intimidating approaching a sex symbol like myself

Then go into normal flirty conversation mode

I've used this a few time awhile back and they all opened. Hmmm, I may have to start using this one again.
 

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napoleon said:
I'll try it this weekend in a club.
You come over to a girl and say: I've been waiting for you to notice me all night but now I'm tired of waiting... I'm... Whats up...
Of course, you aren't waiting for her to notice you, it's just used as an approach.
Did you get that from the Bar scene in Good Will Hunting, when Mini Driver goes to Matt Damon and says: You're an idiot. I have been waiting here for 45 minutes for you to talk to me. Now, I am tired and going home......."

I am pretty sure you did.
 

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Scought said:
Did you get that from the Bar scene in Good Will Hunting, when Mini Driver goes to Matt Damon and says: You're an idiot. I have been waiting here for 45 minutes for you to talk to me. Now, I am tired and going home......."

I am pretty sure you did.
I was thinking exactly the same
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Lust

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ModernSavage said:
This reminds me of the "are you shy opener." It goes something like this:

If your standing near a HB

You: Hi, are you shy?

Her: No, why?

You: Well I've been standing here for like 5 minutes now and you haven't even said hi yet! (this is said in ****y funny tone)

Her: bla bla...giggles

you: It's ok, I know it can get intimidating approaching a sex symbol like myself

Then go into normal flirty conversation mode

I've used this a few time awhile back and they all opened. Hmmm, I may have to start using this one again.
That one works, I've tried it.
 

JPFromTally

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I'm going to keep saying it til I'm blue in the face... Lines don't work! Talk to a chick like she's anybody else.
 

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JPFromTally said:
I'm going to keep saying it til I'm blue in the face... Lines don't work! Talk to a chick like she's anybody else.

I agree. Unfortunately for JP, that's exactly how I treat men too :woo:
 
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