Here's a BIG KEY to raising healthy children, and having a healthy marriage.
You have to set the FRAME.
As a couple, you have to agree that the child will NOT be the center of the marriage. You as a couple are the marriage. This will help the family in a number of ways. One, the child won't grow up as a "Self Centered Brat", who believes the world revolves around them. And Two, what happens to the marriage after the kid leaves the nest? A child centered marriage, will most likely fall apart, whereas a couple centered marriage will continue to thrive.
A young child will find comfort in the fact that Mom and Dad date and flirt with each other. Unfortunately, a toddler is too young to understand. Part of parenting is prioritizing YOUR relationship OVER the relationship with the child. Which means you will need to spend couch time with your wife, while the little brat is throwing a trantrum on the floor, because you won't pick him up. However, once they understand "couch time", they will quickly accept it. In fact, they will find security in knowing that Mom and Dad are in love, while all of their friends parents are divorced.
The key to parenting, is being strict when they are young, and loosening the reigns when the child demonstrates responsibility. If you try the opposite, and try to crack down on a liberally parented child because they're out of control, you will only get REBELLION.
You have to DATE your wife. The relationship and your love depends on it.
Once you're in your late 30s, your libido will slow down, and her's will speed up.
If she has a lot of women's issues, PUSH for a Hysterectomy. This will get rid of all the women's issues, and will DRAMATICALLY improve your sex life. Having a wife in her late 30s, or early 40s without girl parts is AWESOME.
Once menopause sets in, her libido will weaken, but by that time, so will yours.
You have to set the FRAME.
As a couple, you have to agree that the child will NOT be the center of the marriage. You as a couple are the marriage. This will help the family in a number of ways. One, the child won't grow up as a "Self Centered Brat", who believes the world revolves around them. And Two, what happens to the marriage after the kid leaves the nest? A child centered marriage, will most likely fall apart, whereas a couple centered marriage will continue to thrive.
A young child will find comfort in the fact that Mom and Dad date and flirt with each other. Unfortunately, a toddler is too young to understand. Part of parenting is prioritizing YOUR relationship OVER the relationship with the child. Which means you will need to spend couch time with your wife, while the little brat is throwing a trantrum on the floor, because you won't pick him up. However, once they understand "couch time", they will quickly accept it. In fact, they will find security in knowing that Mom and Dad are in love, while all of their friends parents are divorced.
The key to parenting, is being strict when they are young, and loosening the reigns when the child demonstrates responsibility. If you try the opposite, and try to crack down on a liberally parented child because they're out of control, you will only get REBELLION.
You have to DATE your wife. The relationship and your love depends on it.
Once you're in your late 30s, your libido will slow down, and her's will speed up.
If she has a lot of women's issues, PUSH for a Hysterectomy. This will get rid of all the women's issues, and will DRAMATICALLY improve your sex life. Having a wife in her late 30s, or early 40s without girl parts is AWESOME.
Once menopause sets in, her libido will weaken, but by that time, so will yours.
