I ran into my old bartender over the weekend (she was having a birthday party for her kid at the park) and we chatted and she introduced me to her family, including her hot younger sister.
When I was freshly divorced I used to spend all my time getting ****faced drunk and talking to her and the other bartenders. Pathetic..yah I know. Anyway as I learned more about the game and got back into it I would sit at the bar and just watch how the guys would try to hit on these hot bartenders. Most of these girls were single moms, struggling to pay bills, some were decent people, some weren't. But the thing I noticed was that they treated men the way the men presented themselves.
You always had the guy who would brag about money, or who would offer to buy them things...so they would go after that if they wanted it. They would talk shyt behind these guys backs the most. But they would still let him pay! And god forbid if he didn't come thru on his promises..they would spread the word far and wide.
The guy who was a thug and just wanted to hit that ass. If they wanted that, they would go for it. Lots of them had thug boyfriends.
The guy who was friendly and just a nice guy to chat with...if that's the way he came across, that's how they treated him...btw that was me.
The average drunk guy saying rude and lewd comments. They would ignore or try to play up for a bigger tip. Those broads where some hustlers.
I remember when I started to get my game back and my confidence up, I was sitting in the bar talking to a friend about the three girls I was dating. The bartender was shocked. She thought I was a "nice guy" and "sweet" and didn't treat girls like that, because I presented myself in that nice guy frame. It actually upped her attraction and we had a few 'afterclosing drunken makeouts', but after I found out she was living with her "baby daddy" I decided to let it go.
The point of this long winded ramble is to say...think about how you are presenting yourself. Real Man (DJ), Player, Walking Wallet, Nice Guy and change that to what you want to be. Because they will believe what they see.
I know its basic info..but it never hurts to say it again.
When I was freshly divorced I used to spend all my time getting ****faced drunk and talking to her and the other bartenders. Pathetic..yah I know. Anyway as I learned more about the game and got back into it I would sit at the bar and just watch how the guys would try to hit on these hot bartenders. Most of these girls were single moms, struggling to pay bills, some were decent people, some weren't. But the thing I noticed was that they treated men the way the men presented themselves.
You always had the guy who would brag about money, or who would offer to buy them things...so they would go after that if they wanted it. They would talk shyt behind these guys backs the most. But they would still let him pay! And god forbid if he didn't come thru on his promises..they would spread the word far and wide.
The guy who was a thug and just wanted to hit that ass. If they wanted that, they would go for it. Lots of them had thug boyfriends.
The guy who was friendly and just a nice guy to chat with...if that's the way he came across, that's how they treated him...btw that was me.
The average drunk guy saying rude and lewd comments. They would ignore or try to play up for a bigger tip. Those broads where some hustlers.
I remember when I started to get my game back and my confidence up, I was sitting in the bar talking to a friend about the three girls I was dating. The bartender was shocked. She thought I was a "nice guy" and "sweet" and didn't treat girls like that, because I presented myself in that nice guy frame. It actually upped her attraction and we had a few 'afterclosing drunken makeouts', but after I found out she was living with her "baby daddy" I decided to let it go.
The point of this long winded ramble is to say...think about how you are presenting yourself. Real Man (DJ), Player, Walking Wallet, Nice Guy and change that to what you want to be. Because they will believe what they see.
I know its basic info..but it never hurts to say it again.