"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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...approach a girl that

1) is sitting on a bus, listens to her IPod and you sit next to her?

2) is walking up the stairs in front of you and is busy talking to her friends?

3) is sitting somewhere and is busy talking to her friends?

these are pretty much the only opportunities I get to approach girls.

any ideas?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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1) Get in front of her so she can see you, and mouth out words without saying them, like you're trying to talk to her but her music is so loud she can't hear you. She'll turn the ipod down or off, and then you can say whatever you have in mind.
 
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I find the bus is one of the worst places to PU/ number #. For some reason, people and especially chicks have their shields up on the bus. I'm not saying it can't be done, I just find there are easier places to do it.

However, there are advantages of being on the bus so use them. She can't run away, she has no choice but to pay attention to you.

The best bet would be to sit in front of her. I would avoid sitting beside her so your not intruding on her personal space. Then just turn around and ask her something to break the ice, aka the time, directions, etc... then go from there once you have your in.

As for # 2, you could goose her (just learnt the word last night on ET! and had to use it)

#3, standard group approach
 
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#3, standard group approach
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what do you mean by "standard group approach"?
there is this one chick in school for example. She´s like two years older than me and she is always sitting there with like 6 other good friends of hers. Some are male some are female. I would have no idea what to say.
 
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Change your lifestyle so you get more opportunity to meet hotties.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Jay Jay said:
Change your lifestyle so you get more opportunity to meet hotties.
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The problem isn´t my lifestyle, but it´s the fact that I like American looking chicks (blonde+blue eyes) and those are really rare in Germany, where I´m living right now. I´m going clubbing, but I´m not 18 yet so I have to go to clubs for 16 year olds. Most of the chicks in there look like 12 year olds with too much makeup and beer bellys and act like they are the sh!t.
 
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ChrizZ said:
...approach a girl that

1) is sitting on a bus, listens to her IPod and you sit next to her?

2) is walking up the stairs in front of you and is busy talking to her friends?

3) is sitting somewhere and is busy talking to her friends?

these are pretty much the only opportunities I get to approach girls.

any ideas?
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1. Tap...Talk
2. Tap...Talk
3. Tap...Talk

Doesn't it sound simple, because it is.
 
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