How would you respond?

[sexxyback]

The situation: a girl you dated for a month and a half, spent xmas and new years together, tells you it's not working out and LJBF. This is around beginning of February.

You think, fvck it. You start going out with other girls and generally ignore her. On Valentine's Day, you get a 'Happy Valentine's Day' text message. You call her a few days after Valentine's Day and ask her out again for that night. She tells you she already has plans for that night. You think, right. Forget about it.

You don't make any contact with her. Today you find a new text message on your phone -

'Hi - how have you been? Guess what? I quit my job [this is significant because her ex boyfriend, who you feel was getting in the way of you establishing a relationship with this girl - works at this place that she supposedly quit]. We should get together sometime! Call me'

I know that she is probably just an attention *****. I was thinking there might be some way to respond and put us back on the non-LJBF track - something like 'yeah I'd like to hang out with you, but I don't just want to be friends, to be perfectly honest'.

Should I just let her go? In the end, I don't really care that much, I'm basically just bored and dating different women, trying to get laid. I still think she's hot, so if there's a way I can work this situation back again, I'd like to try it.

 

[DR Chillz]

I would just try to have sex with her or forget about her. She is the wishy worshy type few things worse then that.

 

[Mind_Body_Soul]

Make a sexual advance on her. If she really wants to just be friends, she won't respond positively.

 

[sexxyback]

I forgot to mention we already fvcked, so at one point she was thinking more than LJBF.

 

[st_99]

yeah, same **** happened to me.. If you play it right you'll get back in the pants mainly because she's probably bored....but it probably wont lead to anything in the long term. There really isn't anthing you can do but be really casual with these situations and stay cool, calm, and collected. She may end up turning into a FB if played right.

I wouldnt say this though "'yeah I'd like to hang out with you, but I don't just want to be friends,"

instead make it known that you have sexual intentions in other round about ways..

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Check her interest level. See if she'd take you out on a date.

 

[Augie]

If I was you, I would say fine we friends life moves on, in time an opportunity may come when things happen, but the best thing to do is accept what she wants and look for someone else, I don't buy this crap that you need to cut off a friendship just because she only wants to be friends.

If she text me for Valentine Day, I would fire back a nice message, I don't see the need to sulk becasue she doesn't want sex, would you sulk if a Bloke didn't say Season Greetings or happy birthday to you.

 

[Kevin Cass]

hmm be friends with her if you want but dont expect anything in return sexual wise. anyways if you do want sex only make it clear.

 

[Jason88]

If you want a roller coaster ride then go for it.

 

[Adrian]

The possibility of her being an attention wh0re is there yes but so is the possibility that she may think she made a mistake letting you go back then. "Lets get togethor sometime! Call me" very likely means she wants to give it another go with you. You're the only one capable of finding out her intentions. I'd go with what someone mentioned earlier.
Check her interest level. See if she'd take you out on a date.
Just keep in mind that she isn't ltr material and is likely to flake out on you again so be sure to always keep other women on the side.

 

[Last Man Standing]

Don't call her!!! She broke it off with you so she should have called you and not text'd you!!! Only text her - don't call her! Text, "let me know when you want to hang out - cheers"

 

[DJDamage]

Check her interest level. See if she'd take you out on a date.

This is the best advice right here.

This girl has been yanking your chain and for all you know you are going to end up spending a couple of hours of your valuable time paying for some activity you could have done without. In the end of the day she will proclaim how you are such a good friend and give you a nice "your like my brother" hug (in all likelyhood that is going to happen since she already LJBF you).

Remember you being the prize mentality?! therefore if you do decide to give her a call (by the way her text message was a sh1tty way of trying to get to you, someone with high interest would at least call), you should tell her stright up that you are up for getting together but she has to make it up to you. Any excuses or questioning the reason as to why she has to make it up to you, and you know you are pretty much wasting your time with low interest girl.

 

[sexxyback]

Don't call her!!! She broke it off with you so she should have called you and not text'd you!!! Only text her - don't call her! Text, "let me know when you want to hang out - cheers"

I did this, if I see her again, it will be either one of two scenarios

1. she comes over to my place 'to watch a movie'

or 2. We go out somewhere, but she pays

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I did this, if I see her again, it will be either one of two scenarios

1. she comes over to my place 'to watch a movie'

or 2. We go out somewhere, but she pays

If she's coming over, have her pick up the movies from the rental store or at least have her bring over take out. Women have got to learn that they need to actively contribute to the entertainment portion of dating. :nono:

 

[nonchalant]

xxx

 

[Last Man Standing]

xxx

Excellent commentary and insight right here!!!!!

 

[sexxyback]

If she's coming over, have her pick up the movies from the rental store or at least have her bring over take out. Women have got to learn that they need to actively contribute to the entertainment portion of dating. :nono:

u have to come over and tell me how 2 upload torrents. i am on ratio watch lol. how about tomorrow???

bring me dinner this weekend and i'll show you

well, there you have it. we'll see what happens.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Women who are truly into you will want to do things for you or at least along with you. With you does not just mean taking her someplace along with you just for her benefit, but it's for mutual enjoyment.

 

[Cremasta]

"That depends on what you're offering, how about you call me."

If she does organise something decent, make sure she pays for you. I don't think there's much interest here, she's just hedging her bets. So there's no point you investing much energy in this one.